Well! I’ve had lots of ideas and comments to the ongoing saga of my girlie husband Alice’s pierced ears all of which have been very useful in formulating my response to Alice’s stubbornness. I said I wouldn’t mention the ear saga again for a while but it has been annoying me even though I do understand Alice’s point that it would be a very obvious statement that she is not a middle aged normal man but something else more feminine to the world. She is not yet ready to tell the world or at least not our family and friends that she’s a girl.
Anyway whilst I understand, I’m not going to actually let her get away with it entirely because I’m not that happy as I really want Alice to have pierced ears. So in the meantime I’ve ordered Alice to make a few other changes, all of which make her more feminine and girlie. Alice is going along with them as I think she feels a bit guilty.
Firstly I used to allow Alice to wear plain dark skirts and a unisex top during the day and no wig so that if anyone passing the house or the neighbours catch a sight of her through the windows their eyes aren’t drawn to pinks or yellow or flowing skirts. This has now stopped. Alice will wear light colours, pinks, whites and so on. She will also wear very obvious dresses or skirts. She will be wearing knee length skirts as well but they will be full, flowing, colourful and bold. Equally I want to only see very feminine tops, no more unisex.
I even allowed her to not wear her wig during the day but now I want it on all the time and I want pink bows and ribbons tied in her hair. She will wear necklaces all the time, bracelets and rings.
I also used to allow her to wear her flat ballet style shoes. No more: it’s heels all the time or wedges. Since she won’t have pierced ears she has to wear clip-ons all the time which makes her lobes a bit sore. So be it. I’m going to look into ear cuffs and magnetic clip ons though thanks to two ideas from my readers.
It was the same with make up, I had allowed very light make up but now every morning I expect full make up, eye shadow, lip stick the works. I had also not kept up with the sanitary pads so these have been re-implemented inside her knickers.
I’ve also hidden all her trousers for the time being. I can’t say where on the blog as she reads it. So she only has skirts and dresses to wear. She hasn’t therefore been out all weekend except into the back garden a little.
I think that really increasing her feminine appearance being very girlie all the time will be much better as allowing concessions has not worked. My goal is for her to eventually ask me to have pierced ears but let’s see.