Go ask Alice


forced feminizationAs I’ve started to expand my network of contacts in our alternative yet far more desirable world of male feminisation, I’ve noticed that in most cases it is the males who have a strong desire to be feminised and have often had this desire since their younger lives.

I know I’m generalising and it’s certainly not the situation in every case but it does seem so from my unscientific analysis and relatively short experience in this area. Now I have clearly heard from other mistresses just like me who have had to ‘encourage’ their partners to be feminised so I know there are others like me. Nevertheless, the majority of people writing to me and people I’ve met in real life so far are males who have not needed to be forced.

This got me thinking about Alice. She never had any wish to become feminised until I decided it would be in our best interests. I still have small battles over her increasing feminisation which although often fun, can at times be irritating when she doesn’t initially do what I tell her. That said I’ve got her largely where I want her to be at home and now increasingly outside too. So why do I eventually win the debates over her continuing feminisation and get what I want (mostly)? I accept that I do use psychological domination and this is important but not the whole picture. Following a recent episode on Sunday evening where I had to get quite strict with Alice, I thought I’d go ask Alice why she did as she was told (mostly).

So what happened was that we were out having a meal together on Sunday evening in central London. Alice was of course wearing a bra although we’d had a little tussle over this before going out as she’d initially removed it. I won of course but had explained that nobody would notice anyway as it was under a shirt, a jumper and a coat. Removing the coat in the restaurant, I noticed that the faint outline of the front of the bra could be seen even through the jumper. Alice didn’t notice at first so I obviously kept quiet. The problems started when her bra strap slipped off her shoulder and she had to surreptitiously pull it up again whereby she noticed the bra outline in faint detail across the front of her jumper. I did manage to convince her that no one would notice as no one was interested in us so the situation calmed a little until Alice became warm in the hot restaurant and needed to remove her jumper. In doing so her bra was now very obvious under her cotton shirt. Not only was the outline clear, but you could see the frill and faint pattern on her bra. Cue pleasure from me and panic from Alice who wanted to go to the toilets to take it off.

I had to become very forceful and make her stay where she was and I told her in no uncertain terms that the bra stays on and stay on it did even though Alice was obviously very uncomfortable with the situation. This made it all the more enjoyable for me as she folded her arms across her chest every time the waiter approached. I don’t know if anyone noticed to be honest but that didn’t matter. However I asked Alice how she felt and I was a little surprised at her reply. She said she hated the possibility of being seen in a bra and absolutely did not want to wear it at all that day. But……

She found it immensely exciting to be humiliated in that way. As someone who likes to understand reasons and motivations and use them, I think I’ve finally understood why Alice accepts being a girl reluctantly. It’s not that she really to be a girl (although that’s what she’s become) she enjoys the humiliation of it all which is a great fit with me who enjoys humiliating her immensely although I enjoy her being a girl most of all. A win-win. All I had to do was ‘Go Ask Alice’.

Now why didn’t I think of that before?

About Lady Alexa

I am a writer and a believer in the immense benefits of male feminisation and female domination. My blog records my true-life experiences in these areas. I also have several novels and a non-fiction book published on Amazon about forced feminisation which you can find under my pen name Lady Alexa. I live in a quiet corner of North London with my obedient and feminised husband/housewife.
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48 Responses to Go ask Alice

  1. corsetjane says:

    What a great post Lady A…
    Love the way this is going..and how you are steering Alice…and yes…i’m one of those males who loves the idea of being feminised… So why are there more of us out there?
    I would ask the question…what is the difference between me..(and many of us)..and Alice?… To me..in a very happy marriage, to someone not interested in the least in feminising me.. it is the forbidden fruit…the excitement of the unknown…the “naughtiness”…the sheer thrill of looking good in female clothing, the ability to turn the head of a male that drives me… but…
    i can walk away from it (at the moment anyway) ..it is totally controlled by me…and if i changed my mind, i could go back to the macho 50 something male that i have become accustomed to (and, lets be honest…a role that i still enjoy). If i lost that control..would i feel comfortable? Who knows. The sub deep in me likes to think that i would…but years of conditioning (as per your earlier post) as the standard male would make it uncomfortable…i am sure.
    i have read all your blog..on numerous occasions and love seeing how this situation developed. I know i love the idea of giving up control..i know i love the idea of being in similar shoes (high heels! 🙂 ) to Alice… but cannot get away from the fact that without going behind my partner’s back, which i dont want to do..i am safe in my world and can direct it wherever i want.. i have thought many times how would i react in Alice’s situation. Yes it excites me..yes i want it…but i would be resistant… very resistant if my male citadel was being dismantled…i am sure. It is an amazing dilemma… If i was in my 20’s am sure it would be an easier decision as, like many in this situation i have had success in life and relationships!
    At the end of the day… you are an amazing couple…and i love hearing your tales, and have loved having a few chats with Alice on another site. i can truly relate to her discomfort..but if brutally honest… i can also relate to her excitement at humiliation…
    Onwards and upwards Lady A… don’t stop…please… there are many of us out there, who are egging you on from the comfort of our little worlds… (hoping for something new)…

    cj 🙂

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    • Lady A says:

      Thank you for your lovely reply Jane. I believe you’ve hit the nail on the head with the idea of the dismantling of the male citadel, I love the metaphor. I think this is exactly the dilemma Alice feels, great pleasure of her humiliation mixed with deep concern over this dismantling. I like the idea.

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      • corsetjane says:

        Yes…and thanks…i think we all love the idea LadyA….including Alice if she’s honest… 😉

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    • jim sedrut says:

      CJ. Nice post.

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  2. Shelby says:

    Lady A that was a fantastic piece and a very intelligent one too.. I really admire the sort of thought you put in. You want Alice the way you want to be but also ensure that things move smoothly..you discuss things with her,Its a lovely relationship.. Your piece also set me thinking about myself.. I always had a fascination to dress up as a woman from younger days but never made a serious attempt because i was also used to the male way of life I was tuned to and did not contemplate any change. But when I began wondering to try out and yes I always thought dressing up was trying to get feminised. It was through you Lady A i realised it was first to change the mental makeup.. our mannerisms, giving up male domination and enjoying feminine pleasures which really is the key .. and there I found the right direction..Dressing up followed on its own.. Yes many males may be like me who want to get feminised but of course I too would want to keep it at home for the time being like Alice and not to go for a complete change into a woman . love to be a girl’s girl that is the best way to put it perhaps….and i really think Alice is lucky to have u…and as cj said dont stop..just go on Lady A…Shelby

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    • Lady A says:

      Hello Shelby. Its a balancing act. My domination is important but I do want Alice to be brought along and see that it’s for her benefit too.

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      • Shelby says:

        Yes I agree Lady A its a balancing act but you are doing it so wonderfully..And once she sees her benefit she would appreciate your dominance all the more !! and would be totally cooperative..I wish I had somebody like you!!

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      • Lady A says:

        Alice is happy really, she just needs persuading sometimes.

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  3. Sissy Chloe says:

    I also have nothing but admiration for the way you’re guiding Alice through her feminization process; Lady A. You two are indeed a very special couple and I suppose what most of us ‘regular males’ (but interested in experimenting with being feminized – at least at home) simply do not have is a wife who likes the idea too, and is willing to invest in such a relationship. It sends tingles down my spine to think what a world it would be if all women felt such sympathy towards male feminization. But then again, Alice doesn’t need all women to be like that to enjoy the wonderful pleasures of feminized bliss, because she has you. Actually, how come that you like it, Lady A? When did it start? How did it start?

    Also, thank you for your wonderful updates on Alice’s progress. Love what you did to her in those pictures in the gorgeous white rara skirt and the pretty pink cardi + plus heels – OMG!!! She’s such a lucky girl!

    Finally, just an idea: maybe you two could go on a city trip to a totally anonymous place (different country, different language) where folks are tolerant and unruffled about gender identities (Amsterdam, Prague, Berlin) and just enjoy a weekend on the town, both dressed in feminine styles with heels and full makeup. There’s no law against it, right? Actually, I have seen this kind of thing, occasionally, and really admired the people involved.

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    • Lady A says:

      I think it’s important that Alice has very girly clothing rather than plain as it cements her femininity in her own eyes. I’m not sure I would describe my attitude to male feminisation as sympathy but rather as something I actively believe in. I have thought about travelling to another country where people are tolerant. I may choose somewhere further afield maybe Thailand? It’s a good suggestion so I’ll investigate

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  4. Shelby says:

    Chloe you are right ..really Lady A and Alice make a gorgeous couple..And yes it is a fantastic idea of visiting places which are more open and unruffled about gender identities or the lack of it!!..Three Cheers to you too Lady A and Alice!!

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  5. jim sedrut says:

    First of all, you are an amazing writer. Love how you think about it all. I am a hetero-male but your blog is such a turn on. Thank you..

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    • Lady A says:

      I’m pleased you enjoy it Jim. Alice is a very hetero male too and in male clothing you would say she is the last person who would be feminised. And that’s the fun of it for me.

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      • jim sedrut says:

        How fascinating! Your thought process is amazing. And such a turn on to hear the details that you share. Much thanks.

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      • Lady A says:

        I’ve had my thought process described using many adjectives but I prefer yours

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      • jim sedrut says:

        I appreciate your polite responses. The world that you portray is beyond fascinating and quite a turn on as a voyeur. Love all the great ideas that you all share.

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      • Lady A says:

        Thanks Jim I’m pleased you enjoy my stories of our life together.

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  6. once again a great entry into what is a fascinating blog!..yes I suppose it IS more men that wish to be feminized than there are women who wish to feminize them. How many wives ,on the day they marry,for example, have that thought in mind as they walk up the aisle?..not many I’d bet,also how many want to show off a feminized partner to the world,friends,and family?. I have never been a fan of humiliation I have to say but in the context of training I suppose a little public exposure is necessary

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    • Lady A says:

      Hello Julia and yes I can’t imagine many women would walk up the aisle thinking about how her new husband would look in a dress! The idea of feminising my husband came later, more as a way of exerting control. Then I discovered I found it exciting to have him feminised. I’m not sure I want to show Alice off to my family feminised yet but I would love to show her feminised to some of my female friends!!!

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      • patti59 says:

        I really think that women showing off their feminized males to other females is awesome. Women really need to see how pretty and docile men become when feminized, then they will realize the best thing for them is to have their males feminine and sweet. The New World Order will occur ONLY when women decide that all men and boys belong in skirts and dresses and that they need to submit to female authority. Once this happens, and women take away voting privileges and property ownership from males, then women will have total and complete power. That will be so AWESOME

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  7. Shelby says:

    Yes I too think we males want to be feminised more for their females..and want to be controlled by them ..like it has happened to me..i did not link feminisation with control till Lady A helped me out!!and once control comes feminisation is easy..i myself love to get feminised but wont do for all…i m a male a hetero and it would only be for female/s

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  8. Sissy Chloe says:

    You’re so right, Lady A, when you say: “I think it’s important that Alice has very girly clothing rather than plain as it cements her femininity in her own eyes.” Has she discovered the exquisite pleasure of a string of pears yet? Or a pussy-bow blouse? Or a pretty handbag? I definitely agree with your insistence on shades of pink, as pastels are so lovely on feminized males.

    Keep up the wonderful work.
    Sissy Chloe

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  9. Sissy Chloe says:

    I meant: a string of PEARLS, of course. 🙂

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  10. jen smith says:

    Thank you again Lady A for such a thoughtful post!

    I have tried to figure out my own feelings of wanting to transition to a woman which is a very positive and desirable thing for me, vs. my desire for public humiliation.

    For me, the humiliation for me can be be in the form of a public display by Miss, exercising her dominance in public, or it can be humiliation due to me being in public in boy mode, but wearing women’s clothing that may or may not pass as boy clothing. For me that it is wearing girl shorts and tops, skinny jeans, a bra that cane be seen under my top, and lightly applied pink lipstick.

    When we go out shopping I can be humiliated if I’m noticed when we are browsing women’s cloths and lingerie, and if I take women’s clothes to the fitting room what do the clerks think? As I’m sure they know the look of their inventory pretty well…

    So I guess I am humiliated by failing to pass as a woman, but am uplifted by succeeding at that.

    My best wishes to you both, I love hearing about your journey, and I hope you both are getting great satisfaction with your fun!

    jen

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    • Lady A says:

      Don’t fight the need to dress as a woman, men need to be feminised. They also need to be humiliated by real women.

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      • Shelby says:

        Well said Lady A..My life has improved tremendously after I realised that..WHen i handed over control of everything to my wife and underwent humiliation by her the feminisation process also started gaining momentum..the womanly duties are done by me and she is the “lord” of the house..I really feel feminine being her “girl”..thanks Lady A

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      • Lady A says:

        I think you mean she’s the LADY of the house

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  11. jim sedrut says:

    As a hetero male. Married–very vanilla–hot vanilla when I am with my in-shape-wife (60 years old) on our weekly dates. She would be surprised at my getting turned on by all this. Its a real mind f**k. And I applaud you:)))) The idea of females dominating their males is mind-blowing! And that you are so methodical about it is even more delicious.And devious.
    And hot. You sound so loving in your desire to feminize your “man.” Its so nice that you support other ladies to “help” their males along. You ladies rock!

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  12. chloe cashmere says:

    Having lived as a self-feminizing male for years now i feel like it’s never going to change. This feeling of desiring emasculation and fighting it is always there and doesn’t seem to diminish. Perhaps it is this tussle which is fundamental to it all. If that resistance were to vanish then perhaps the feminization process would never be the same and would lack something important. What does happen though is that the ‘thing’ that needs to happen to succesfully feed the sissy’s femmy and humiliation desire becomes bigger. For example i have to spend more and more time dressed as a woman and this increases and increases. The feeling of the male inside being emasculated and shamed never diminishes but at the same time a wonderful feminine comfort and peace exists with it when i am in girls clothes and makeup for hours. chloe x

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  13. Shelby says:

    lady A yes she is the LADY of the house…i erred..so sorry…there is no lord now…the LADY rules and the male is also her girl now!!

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  14. Shelby says:

    Lady A our marriage anniversary falls in May..And as this is the first anniversary after she is having the control and I am happily settling as her girl I feel this anniversary should be something special.. I am thinking of taking an oath expressing my total submission to her and expressing my happiness in doing whatever she says and take care of her house and keep her comfortable.I will submit myself totally to her and promise to carry on this FLR as her girl. I am thinking of telling her in advance so that if she wants me to suggest anything she can..but before that what do you think Lady A? This anniversary is indeed special in my relationship with her..Please free to suggest …SHelby

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    • Lady A says:

      I would suggest you wear a maid’s dress with a little apron and ensure she is treated as a true lady for the whole day. And don’t forget to curtsy and refer to her as Mistress.

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  15. Shelby says:

    Maids dress is an excellent suggestion!! thanks i would love it ..yes i would curtsy to her too and refer her as Mistress.. I am treating her as a Lady. my Lady every day though I am not curtsying or referring to her as Mistress. Thanks a lot..u make me so excited Lady A.. And in the meantime i have spoken to her too and she is also loving the idea of my celebrating this anniversary taking an oath of submission. She did not suggest anything so far but did say that it would be a private thing between us and maybe her mom ..if my Lady wants her ..she hasnt made up her mind….thanks Lady A ..thanks Mistress..curtsys..Shelby

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  16. Shelby says:

    Lady an update regarding my marriage anniversary..i m getting excited.Things r falling into place..I also suggested that I wear the maid’s uniform that whole day and take the oath of submission in a maid’s uniform. She listened and grinned and she herself will arrange for the maid’s dress for me.I m practising to curtesy in front of the mirror so that i do it perfectly. The Lady however has said that she would keep my dressing up as a maid a private one just between us which is fine with me. My life has totally changed since i became totally submissive person and a girl to her..I enjoy my progress as a housewife. I am wearing nighties regularly now and our bedroom roles have totally transformed.She has total control now . I always wear nightie and knickers in bed. SHe is the one mostly on top of me, holding me fondling me whether it be my male boobies stomach,my’clit’or whatever and i just do what she says.. Both of us r loving it.
    The wedding anniversary has some days to go… i m looking forward to it …

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    • Lady A says:

      Do let us all know how things go Shelby

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      • Shelby says:

        Lady A, the big day of our marriage anniversary came and went off very well. This day as I told you earlier I planned to take an oath pledging my submission to my wife as this was the first marriage anniversary after the change in our relationship took place; with my wife taking charge and I committed to doing all the household chores and carrying her instructions.
        As you advised I wore a maids dress which my wife bought for me and gave me the previous night. The whole day I curtseyed to her and addressed her as mistress. It was a big day for me cos even though I am one by one transforming myself into feminine behavior I haven’t worn feminine clothes except knickers, nighties, aprons and female trousers. This was the first time I wore a woman’s dress even though it was a maid’s uniform. It was a black and white French maid outfit , one piece with the skirt covering the upper thighs. It had a white half apron with lace with a lace headpiece. I wore black stockings too and my shoes were medium heels. (I couldn’t have worn high heels!!). My whole body totally shaven from head downwards. The knickers I wore were more like a thong !! I had been practicing curtseying for some weeks before the big day!!.
        I was able to dress in smoothly and it fitted well thanks to the care my wife took about my measurements. She wore black trousers and a white top with black lining . She sat on the chair and asked me to bring a glass of wine.. (My first chore as a maid!!) .I curtseyed and brought it for her.Placed it before her and curtseyed again addressing her as Mistress. AS you mentioned she appeared very pleased whenever I addressed her as Mistress. She then commanded me to start the oath while she was sipping the wine. She asked me to sit on my knees and looked straight at me throughout without any hint of emotion as I took my oath. I took my oath of submission humbly telling that I am honoured to serve her in the way she pleases and I am thankful that she has given me this lovely task of being her housewife. I assured her that I will continue to do so to the best of my limited ability and will follow all her instructions and do whatever she says before whichever audience she wants me to. This is her house and I am at her service and nothing gives me greater pleasure than serving her , making her happy and getting humiliated by her .I told her that nothing pleases me than she controlling me physically and psychologically and I will continue to serve her and whomsoever she wants me to serve unquestioningly and most happily. I totally belong to her and am at her disposal to be used the way she wants. After I completed she just put out her hand and tousled my hair.
        There were gifts too.I gifted her a ring humbly and she showed a skirt which she bought for me but she also said that I could wear only when she wants. She also mentioned that my being in feminine dresses is a secret between us and not for the family . She also showed one more gift for me which she said only she had the discretion to use!!. It is a collar and leash !!. It was nice but she kept it with herself.
        The events of the day certainly showed in the night.. She instructred me to remove the maids dress and remain naked.she was wearing her nightie.. She was on top ogf me playing with me , kissing my face , rubbing my boobies my stomach and playing with my clitty and balls. Total role reversal and iloved it.She even put her feet on my face and trampled my whole body… I felt so lovely …
        As I promised I have shared with you Lady A and I really love my transformation and movement into FLR. Hope you appreciate Mistress.. though maybe it has become a little long..Curtsey Shelby

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      • Lady A says:

        Thank you for sharing this with us Shelby and I’m very pleased that your wife has taken on the mistress role so well.

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  17. Shelby says:

    Lady A curtseys..all because of your guidance Mistress!!..Perhaps my wife has realised how much control she exerts on her girlie (i.e. me) . She was always dominant in bed but now she totally controls me and i love it..She has kept the maid’s dress with her and the collar and leash ..she said she will decide the time and place when she wants to use..but she has allowed me to wear the skirt at home in addition to the nighties which is a big big step forward!!..Perhaps she is now increasingly feeling that i am not bad a ‘female’..curtseys Lady A

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  18. Stephanie G says:

    Hmm,if she enjoys the humiliation that means that she sees herself as a male being made to wear feminine items by the wife. Like Alice I wear a bra every day and while I don’t flaunt it as that would be unlady-like I don’t go out of my way to hide it either. I am out to a lot of women though so it is undoubtedly easier for me.
    OT I know of several women who are very tall or who have masculine features so Alice wouldn’t stand out as much in public as she thinks. Having the right attitude is more than half the battle. If she goes about outside with the attitude that she is not doing anything wrong, which is true, people won’t notice anything amiss as people are less observant than they would ever admit. Alice has you with her which will allay suspicion. I realised this several years ago when I started going out with my mother. I was worried but she gave my great advice,which was to act as if everything was normal. If you make something a big deal then others will to, even if they initially thought nothing of it. You can make a big thing small and have others accept it as no big deal if you treat the incident as nothing worth mentioning.
    Of course Alice and I are different girls. I have a female gender identity so it was a lot easier to go about in public in gender appropriate clothing. I also had the protection of my mother and sister. So even if I had been spotted nobody was going to risk a confrontation.

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    • Lady Alexa says:

      I think you’re partially correct Stephanie. Alice doesn’t necessarily fully identify with being a real female and I need to be always on my guard to ensure she doesn’t slip back. I’m very clear that Female Domination is my prime motivation in our relationship and Alice’s feminisation is a very effective control mechanism. Petticoating I believe it’s called on other sites. I keep her clitty available to me for it’s traditional use. I use other femdom tmethods of control such as CFNM and always some kind of humiliation and various disciplinary techniques. That said I prefer her as a girl in both looks and her attitude so it’s a win-win for me. Masculinity is so tedious and unattractive. That said she has adapted very well to many aspects of being a girl. I just need to be vigilant.

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  19. Stephanie G says:

    Alice could use the following as a daily affirmation:
    “It is okay to be feminine,
    It is okay if people think that I am a girl.
    I want people to know that I am a girl.
    I am girlish because I am a girl.
    I am completely and totally a girl.
    Because I am a girl I can act like a girl.
    It is so absolutely wonderful to be a girl.
    I am not doing anything wrong,
    Being feminine makes me happy!”

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