A Mistress Should Be Viligant


braI don’t always insist on breast forms, not all the time anyway. However, for any feminised male a bra, like knickers, is a mandatory item of underwear.

Alice couldn’t see the point of wearing a bra when I first told her she had to start wearing one. “I don’t have real breasts,” she would moan. “Well not yet dear,” I replied to a shocked face.

I think I’m a very reasonable mistress, I haven’t pushed too hard on pierced ears and I don’t insist on her wearing a skirt outside the home. I would say I’m maybe a bit too fair. However there are some things which are just not negotiable and that’s female underwear. It’s give and take in any relationship and ours is no different. My husband has to be a girl but how we expose that fact to the world has some elements of negotiation since the wider world is maybe not quite ready for a feminised 6ft Alice. This is the only reason I allow some element of negotiation.

force feminizationAlice has been pushing back a little again in recent weeks. It all seems fine and I get her where she needs to be then something happens which means she can’t dress appropriately and then I have to reassert my authority and get her back into line as a girl at a later date. Events to do with family and friends obviously affects how Alice dresses, even the bra can’t always be worn depending on the circumstances. Imagine a male family member slapping Alice on the back with affection only to feel a bra strap there? We do have to be careful, I understand that. What that doesn’t mean is that Alice can neglect the bra when she’s away from family and friends. And she has been neglectful.

It’s a mistress’s role therefore to always be vigilant since Alice, in common with all males and former males, is inherently lazy. I would love the day when I can just sit back and relax and Alice is fully feminised every single tmoment of our life in a nice skirt and matching underwear. To be fair she does most times but there are still those occassions when laziness creeps in. Imagine my horror when I noticed that she wasn’t wearing a bra yesterday. To be honest I had dropped my vigilance as we were watching a film on a cold winter’s afternoon, all cozy and warm inside. That was the whole morning and some of the afternoon without a bra. 

My message to all mistresses – be vigilant.

 

About Lady Alexa

I am a writer and a believer in the immense benefits of male feminisation and female domination. My blog records my true-life experiences in these areas. I also have several novels and a non-fiction book published on Amazon about forced feminisation which you can find under my pen name Lady Alexa. I live in a quiet corner of North London with my obedient and feminised husband/housewife.
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12 Responses to A Mistress Should Be Viligant

  1. Titiana Babushenko says:

    Dear Lady A,
    Eternal vigilance is a must when you are demonizing a male, even when it is more of encouraged and planned feminization than by force. Males are by nature lazy, forgetful and take the easy way out. Women are more dutiful and diligent. My own Betty used to forget or omit her Bra or other essentials like nail polish or make up. Like many women I don’t like to use corporal punishment. I prefer to use humiliation or make Betty do something from my bucket list. I have a long list of things, situations I want her to do or expose her. I choose to reinforce her behaviour by making her perform one of the tasks . Recently she talked back to me asking me to wait a few minutes when i had summoned her . I have told her that this weekend she is going to serve me and my friends at home when i invite them for a meal.She will be dressed in a maids uniform, complete with heels and corset , breastforms to accentuate her figure. She is extremely nervous and squirming at this idea, but knows she has to submit. Although she does not know it yet, these are out of town friend who do not know her as an ex male, but i do not intend to tell her before or after the event. She will always be afraid of being recognized by one of them outside. I reassure her that she can avoid that by agreeing to dress andlive full time as a girl. She is not yet ready but surely we will get there.
    Love
    Titiana

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    • Lady A says:

      Thank you for this account of how you deal with your girly partner Titiana. I really hope you get Betty to become a girl full time. It’s my dream for Alice too

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    • Philipp says:

      You are so right, Ms Babushenko. Vigiliance is a must for any Mistress who wants to feminize her male. How did your dinner go last weekend? Did Betty serve you and your guests to your satisfaction? How did she look in her maid’s uniform, high heels, corset and breastforms?

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    • explorer3000 says:

      Very hot. Enjoy.

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  2. Rhea says:

    Are you being too soft with Alice? Is Alice becoming complacent and now treats feminization as a game? Only the two of you know the answers. Perhaps you should insist on Alice wearing both breastforms and bra at home from now on. Once summer sets in this should be continued even when she steps out to hang out her washing.
    Rhea

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    • Lady A says:

      It’s a balance Rhea, I like to think we have a loving relationship with me as the compassionate ruler. I don’t want a marriage where I have to be overbearing and nasty I just want Alice to accept 100% that she’s now a girl. I really wish we’d met 30 years ago and that I knew about this wonderful type of lifestyle so that I could have moulded her much earlier in our lives. I’m sure she would be a fully fledged girl now but we are where we are.

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  3. Maggie says:

    I agree Lady A. it is a balance not a race. It would have been so much easier had I been feminized as a child and had grown up in female personal but unfortunately that wasn’t the case. I stated crossdressing at a young age but learned quickly to do it behind the scenes for fear of what others would think and how it might affect my value as a person. I wanted to feel worthwhile as well as having people like me and compliment me and so could not emotionally risk being seen crossdressing.

    I of course eventually started hormones but the only bras I was comfortable wearing for years even after my breasts started developing were sports bras and only under heavy shirts or sweaters. In addition I was a makeup mavern but would only wear light eye shadow and concealer in public with a bit of foundation unless i was locked away at home in my room. It wasn’t about disrespect or about being lazy or not wanting to wear a bra or even about not accepting myself as a being a woman as much as it was about fear that I would be found out and humiliation that would be considered a freak

    You know best for Alice and I sincerely hope you eventually get your dream of a full time girl, I know if Alice is anything like I am it would be a dream come true for her too. Good luck and keep on posting these wonderful discussions.

    Maggie.

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  4. Titiana Babushenko says:

    I quite agree with you Lady A. Being a bully is not something I too will recommend. Any program of feminization works best when it is slow, steady and as far as possible encouraged and participatory. I become firm with Betty only when there is any tendency o regress or backtrack. I will say that not wearing or forgetting her Bra is such an incident. In such cases the rule has to be reinforced but again not necessarily by force. I try and express my disappointment and add a dose of humiliation. Betty too feels guilty and tries to be extra careful going forward.
    Feminization is best progressed when the male is mentally conditioned. The platform is laid by frequent and regular conversations on what is expected of and for the feminize partner. Before Betty got her ears pierced I used to make her wear clip on ear rings regularly. I often spoke to her about how nice it would be if she had pierced ears and even went and bought nice ear rings for her well in advance.we discussed the public reaction and how we could manage it. I kept encouraging her saying she will find a good way to explain to friends and family and index she did and was proud of it. Even now we frequently converse about future plans including electrolysis or laser for hair removal, breast enlargement and shaping her lips. All these are well in the future but each time we discuss the future Betty knows the direction and some milestones in our journey. Ideas that used to shock her , like breast enlargement are now discussed normally. She is being conditioned to accept this as a natural step forward. I don’t press the issue, but certainly set the direction and agenda for her transformation. As I said, it is important to introduce an element of normality into Betty behaving, thinking and becoming a girl in every aspect and all the time.
    Sorry if I ramble, but want to convey that force is not the best way.
    Love
    Titiana

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    • Lady A says:

      I totally agree with your comments Titiana and thank you for articulating this so well. You certaining didn’t ramble. My whole approach has been towards mental conditioning of Alice. Like you I discuss everything with her. I do like to be firm but equally I prefer to be kind, we are after all a happily married couple, I just want to guide Alice into femininity and to gain her acceptance of that. Lady A x

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    • explorer3000 says:

      Love your thinking…………………..

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    • stephaniefeminized says:

      Well said !

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  5. explorer3000 says:

    great shares ladies……….

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