Now while there are many ladies out there who do want to control and feminise a submissive man, you need to follow my advice or you will fail.
The fact that I receive so much correspondence about this clearly means that many males don’t get it.
To start with we need to set some ground rules.
Ground Rule One – The Lady must come first and be the beneficiary
In any domme/sub relationship it has to be about the domme. There always has to be a major benefit to the lady. Never forget that we are alpha females so this is not about you but us.
Ground Rule Two – If you only want to play then you pay
Males need to decide whether they want a permanent Domme/Sub relationship or a part-time one. If you want a part-time domme/sub relationship then it’s just a game and you won’t find someone to feminise you unless you pay. Remember Ground Rule One – the lady must be the beneficiary. In this case if you only want to play then you must find a lovely lady who provides this as a service and you will pay her. Lots of money and gifts.
Ground Rule Three – If you want permanent, you must always work hard.
So you want to live the lifestyle of a feminised submissive to a beautiful dominant lady. How will you find this wonderful lady who will control you? Well there are many ways but before I go into them you must remember Ground Rule One again. In any permanent relationship you will be her maid. You will cook, clean, wash, iron, shop. Everything. This will be on top of your permanent job and include all those chores you did when you were a man such as decorating and gardening. You will never argue and will follow her orders.
Don’t think you can just swan around the home in a pretty dress and think your wife or girlfriend will sit there and compliment you on how pretty you are while she then has to do the cooking and cleaning. It doesn’t work like that.
Once you have accepted the ground rules you are ready to find a dominant lady to feminise you. Don’t think that you can pay lip service to these rules. Remember, although you may yearn for a lifestyle of subservience to a dominant lady, it’s not about the submissive man it’s about the benefits for the lady.
So let’s assume you realise you must conform to the ground rules, how will you find the lady of your dreams? There are many approaches to finding or even persuading someone you’re already with to dominate and feminise you. Let’s look at the two main options.
1. Getting your current partner to feminise you
This is what happened in my own relationship although it was me who wanted to move to a female led relationship and feminise Alice. If this is your case too then you don’t need to read much further.
So you’re in a loving relationship with your wife but your hints and even requests cut no ice with her. What to do? If you’ve got this far and you can’t answer that question then there’s no hope as you need to show what’s in it for her from your being feminised. So what you do is to move yourself into the role of housewife. In these situations your partner hasn’t yet seen the benefits of a female led relationship all she can see is her husband wanting to wear female clothes. You see, look at it from her perspective and it doesn’t work. Whereas if the husband were to start to take over the housework, make her the queen, massage her feet, serve her the dinner. She’ll start to see how a feminised husband is in fact a great benefit to her. Grow your hair, take more care of your nails, wear softer colours, SIT DOWN TO PEE. It will take time for her to adjust but adjust she will as she’ll see a kinder softer and more hygienic husband (becoming housewife).
You might say she’s not an alpha lady, not very dominant. Fine, but what woman doesn’t wasnt to be the queen of the home? Spoil her everyday and put her first in everything. You’ll be on your way to life as a submissive girl.
You’re single and you’ve decided the relationship you want is with a dominant woman who will feminise and humiliate you. First of all don’t be too desperate, no one likes a desperate person and it would advertise the fact that all you want her for is so you can prance around in a pink dress. Back to ground rule one, it’s about the benefits to her not you.
So you’re relaxed, not being desperate and you meet a lovely lady. My recommendation is to tell her early on in your relationship, second or third date, that you are not an alpha male, you prefer to be more submissive and you like to accede to your partner’s wishes and demands. If they’re happy with this, tell them you are a feminine male and ‘sometimes’ wear feminine clothing. This will probaby make or break things but fine, you know where you are and you can move on to the next lady and try again.
Now this option may not work as many women are blinkered due to their upbringing and male propaganda. There is a perfectly sound second option: Advertise. You can use Internet dating sites. Be very clear what you are looking for, a female led relationship. Don’t of course write that you’re looking for a woman to feminise you (What rule must you remember?). Write that you will always put your lady first, her pleasure would be your objective. Even say you were born to serve. A true dominant woman will not be there to serve your fantasies but to be an alpha female and she’ll expect to be put first and her orders followed. Your fantasie will be permitted to come out once you accede to her demands. The two are inextricably linked.
Putting it all together
I hope this article helps to answer the question, how to find a dominant woman. I think you’ll see that any prospective submissive feminised male must make a great deal of effort if they want a permanent relationship of this type. For many people it’s just a sexual fantasy. Fine, pay up. If not then work hard and put your new partner first in everything you do at all times. It’s what she deserves as a true woman; it’s what all true women deserve. Remember the three ground rules and never ever forget ground rule one – the lady must always be the beneficiary.