There seems to be a school of thought in the world of femdom and forced feminisation that the mistress should be a tyrant. A raging aggressive harridan who makes their submissive tremble and inflicts terrible physical punishment on their weak bodies. A woman who thinks men weak and wants to trample over their rights and needs.
I suppose there’s a market for this type of thing but I can’t imagine that it’s sustainable in a long-term relationship.
For me being a benevolent mistress is the only way to live when you are in a real Female Led Relationship.Now, of course you need rules and Alice has to abide by them. She has to show a deep respect to me, be a well-behaved girl and do the housework. As long as she does these things then why would I be nasty to her? What about punishment you might ask? Yes there’s punishment. I spank her and I think that’s necessary to show where she sits in the relationship status. Submissive. If you admonish your children it’s for their benefit, you don’t love them any less. They just need discipline to ensure they behave correctly and to learn who’s in charge. And so it is with husbands. I would never harm Alice, just make her bum a little red. Sometimes more than a little but that all depends on her behaviour not my maliciousness.
Being kind to your partners works well on their behaviour too. I always allow Alice to watch her football team on the TV or even to go to the live games. This has always been a passion of hers even when she was male. Why would I deny her some pleasure? I have to say it’s rather amusing to see her getting excited at home when watching the games on TV as she jumps around in her little skirt. Doing these types of things avoids any resentment and the need for extra enforcement. In the end it’s easier on me. And we are married after all and she does do everything for me. As long as she remembers that my needs come first then I’ll always allow her these little treats.
I really believe that a benevolent mistress ultimately gets more from their submissive partner than someone who is nasty. If that type of relationship does indeed even exist. I’ve met a few people in relationships like ours now and I can say they all operate in a similar fashion to mine. The woman is in charge but rarely if ever has to resort to any really nasty stuff.
It’s a woman’s world here in my corner of North London, why would I not be happy?