I live in a female led relationship with my obedient and feminised husband Alice in a quiet area of North London. From the outside everything is normal but behind our closed doors things are very different.
My posts are my true experiences about our lifestyle, our challenges and our journey into forced feminisation and female domination.
I also write femdom and forced feminisation fiction under my pen name Lady Alexa and you can find my novels by clicking on the amazon logo for USA or UK or go to your local Amazon site and search for Lady Alexa.
I also have a Pinterest site with my favourite pictures: https://uk.pinterest.com/ladiesontop/
I have a Fetlife profile under LadyAlexa-UK and you can find me here: https://fetlife.com/users/2570588
Alice has a profile on Fetlife too, look for alicegirlie or go to https://fetlife.com/users/5236488
I would love to hear from any other dominant ladies or couples who live this lifestyle.
You can contact me on the comments pages on each post, the contact us page on this site or through Fetlife.
Note: All the posts and stories on ladiesontop.wordpress.com are subject to worldwide copyright laws © Lady Alexa
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How to locate a woman seeking FLR?
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Good question and We have discussed it many times. I believe these things need to be natural, neither of us were looking for an FLR but
we evolved into what we have now. Alice and I were naturally attracted to each other and had a very similar set of interests. It’s obvious now that Alice was attracted by my dominant manner.
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both you and Alice are fortunate you have similar set of interests.. I m hoping my wife also gets to appreciate she can do great if she dominates and feminises me.
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by the way Lady A I joined Pinterest ladysontop…come as Rashgee thanks
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I love the discussion. I’ve been in a flr marriage and a gf/BF situation that were the best times of my life. Neither last over 3 years. I’m def yearning for this to become a reality again very soon..
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i played the macho man role for many years but always had a secret side. One night, in a moment of passion, i blurted out “I would like to wear Your panties”. The relationship changed overnight. She took me shopping the next day and within weeks, i had a complete wardrobe and had learned to do my own makeup. We married and remained together for approx 20 years. It was the most intimate relationship ever. There were no secrets, She both ruled me and pampered me, She sometimes humiliated me and punished me if i forgot my place. i loved it and miss it very much
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I really hope you find the same again in the future Jackie
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Yes. Hope so
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Lady A, you’ve moved so much faster and further in developing Alice than I have with my Joanna I hesitate to even make a suggestion to you! I was surprised however to read your comments on making Alice shave. I always found shaving Jojo difficult, temporary and unsatisfactory.
Have you considered intimate full-body waxing for Alice? The benefits are enormous.
Full body waxing helps make a man more aware of female body maintenance and care discipline. Jojo loves the soft, smooth feel of her body and now regularly exfoliates and moisturizes like a regular female – something she never did before
Also it familiarizes her with those intimate bodily intrusions and examinations we women have always put up with and which men never have. Jojo now willingly accepts (and enjoys) the intimate ministrations of an efficient professional. She says that it makes her feel more vulnerable and submissive
I also think it’s good for her to have a couple of hours “me-time” when her sole concern is her appearance and making herself attractive for me.
Fourthly (and this may appeal to you) I know that Jo finds the explicit and undignified bodily positions and poses she has to adopt to be quite humiliating. You may enjoy seeing Alice treated this way too.
I know waxing can be quite painful but we have always tolerated pain and discomfort for beauty haven’t we? and, well, tough! To be honest I don’t really care.
Finally, and best of all, Alice will have beautifully smooth and soft skin that lasts for weeks. Indeed after several years of regular waxing Jojo has more or less permanently smooth, feminine skin with almost no body hair. She looks so cute and I love her oiling us both up before I cuddle up to her and make love to her.
I’m afraid it doesn’t solve the problem of facial hair but it is a thoroughly feminine and transforming experience I’m sure you’d love for Alice
Love
Karen
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Thank you Karen I really do enjoy receiving comments from other dominant ladies such as yourself as I need to swap ideas and experiences on our unusual (sadly) view on how life and in particular men should be. I do like the idea of waxing for Alice. Getting Alice to regularly shave or apply hair removal creams is a constant chore for me to manage and I’m always having to remind her and I get angry regularly when she doesn’t do it and I’d like to have an easier time. I am actively considering electrolysis and I do have a machine for this although it’s quite laborious for legs and chest. I really do need to explore the idea of waxing and I know it would be humiliating for Alice for someone to do it, especially her little triangle of pubic hair, I assume I could get a female operative who would do this region on men? Thank you bringing up as a reminder for me to do.
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My lady has me shaving everything except a little triangle above my genital area and using nair. But if she wanted me to wax I would follow her orders!
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I think waxing is the next step – why don’t you ask her if she’d like you waxed?
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Lady A, the best person I know is based in Upminster. Please let me know if you want details posted on this blog
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Upminster is only about 30 or 40 mins around the M25 from us. Is this the lady who waxes your Joanna’s body? I assume she’s happy to wax feminised men then and all their intimite parts. Oh how humiliating that would be, I expect she wouldn’t mind if I watch as I’d want to be there to see it.
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Yes!, well, she waxed Joanna until we moved away in 2013, so for more than two years
She’s has had several since and this lady really was the best and is really sweet.
I’m sure Kim wouldn’t have any problem with a feminised man although Jojo didn’t go in her feminine clothes. She waxed her clit and pussy beautifully (I like the Hollywood)
I told her that I wanted her treated just like her female clients and not to go easy on her and she didn’t
I regret it now but at the time I was too nervous and embarrassed to ask if I could watch (I’ve only done that since) so I really don’t know. Sorry
If you Google “waxing” and Upminster you’ll find her but if you have any difficulty please let me know
Love
Karen
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Thank you Karen I’ll do this and ask for Kim. Alice would not go in her feminine outer wear but in male with bra and knickers underneath. I have every intention of watching and I want to see Alice’s face when she does her clitty, pussy balls and nice little triangle. I’m excited already. Thanks again.
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I will ask her if she would like me to get waxed Lady A. Karen Foxall and Lady A as a male in the constant process of training and feminization by my fiancé/mistress may I ask you both why you as dominant women in your female led relationships like the humiliation things to do with feminizing your submissive? My mistress says it just arouses her to great heights taking me shopping and having me ask for a bra fitting, trying on skirts dresses, having me come out of the dressing room and model for her, telling a sales girl we are shopping for panties for me. I’m sure she’d love watching me get waxed and of course in doing so telling the person to leave the little triangle above my sissy clit.. Since she studied this lifestyle like it seems all dominant females do my private areas have now always been called sissy clit and sissy pussy! There’s other constant humiliations by my dominant . She absolutely loves me, aroused having me dressed. Is it power the power and humiliation that is the turn on for dominant females? Thanx Stephanie
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I’m really enjoying your blog. I’m a Dominant woman but only recently, have I taken an interest in feminization mostly because of my boyfriend (babygirl). We’ve only been doing clothes and makeup so far. Hopefully we’ll be able to move on to heels soon. But I would be interested in any advice you have for couples that don’t live together. Feminization and chastity get a little more difficult in this situation. I do admire the progress in your relationship and am looking forward to reading more about it.
–Miss Ari ^_^
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Hello Miss Ari and I’m pleased you’re enjoying the blog. I’ve not got any experience of living apart and maintaining Alice’s feminisation but I do leave her at home during the day when I’m out of the home in the office. I expect her to remain feminised of course when I’m not there and she does. I’ve achieved this in three ways. One is that on odd occasions I return home unexpectedly early. The second is to call and text during the day to “ask how my girl is” ask what “pretty skirt” she has on and other feminine questions. Finally I I’ve been so obsessive about Alice being a girl and that she only wears skirts/dresses at home and knickers/bra at all times that Alice now just gets up in the morning and puts on a skirt or dress. Maybe when you call your babygirl when you’re not together you can use Skype or Facetime unexpectedly which means you can check if she’s wearing appropriate female clothing. I would go into his place and physically throw away any male underwear now and replace them with knickers. The same with aftershaves and any other male products such as shampoos, shower gels or deodorants which need to be replaced with feminine versions. I hope there are some ideas for you there. From my experience though you do need to keep on top of things as males can be lazy and slip back to male things if you’re not continuously on their case.
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I totally agree with you Lady A and its a nice bit of advice for Miss Ari. WHat is helping me is I m myself so definite that feminisation is the way for me..Shelby
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Lady A, I’ve been with my partner for 10 years and recently got engaged! After we got engaged things changed! We talked and she said she always knew I was submissive, and wanted to explore this more. I was very excited about it as I’d never really talked about it and didn’t even realise she noticed this.
I wasn’t really prepared for the what was to come… And I’m still not
She showed me your blog and I was quite suprised she read it. She told me that she wanted us to go down this path. Again I was shocked. She has already booked me in for a full body wax next week, which I am extremely nervous about. And I don’t know what she will have me doing next. I’m quite small myself so I guess she thinks I can pull it off. I am a bit like Alice in terms of not really wanting the feminization, but I do really want to do anything she asks. I feel like things will progress quite fast with me as I am very keen to do whatever she wants.
I guess my question is, what should I be expecting next? Full waxing already seems too much for me! However as she said. I WILL do it.
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Don’t fight it Tom although you will feel it to be going against the grain at times due to your social conditioning. However just remember it is for the best and eventually you will be fully feminised and submissive. You don’t say how far in terms of feminisation you’ve gone but from what I read you can expect to have to wear female clothing and other products at all times and to all intents and purposes you will become a girl, at least in appearance. You will become used to it and accept it so, as I said, don’t fight it as it’s your destiny anyway.
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Nice advice Lady A…yes it(feminisation) is all for the good
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Well I haven’t gone very far in terms of feminization until this week. Had a full leg and chest and stomach wax (oh my god so much pain) and she said she has more surprises this weekend. I’m very nervous at what she will want from me as I wasn’t really expecting any of this… You think she intends to make me look like a girl all the time?! Not sure how I’d go with that! I suppose if she is reading your blog (hopefully not all the comments) then that seems likely!
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Why not accept where she’s taking you and make an offer to wear what ever she decides. Hand over your clothing decisions to her. She’s want you in a skirt and that’s for the best
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Good boy
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Hi Tom. How has your journey been since posting here?
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Such lovely and devilish ideas by you and your readers. I love your shares:::::
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Hello Lady A,
I am from India, me and my GF are in live in relationship, she was reading was your blog since last 1 year and in last few months she has started asking me bizare type of demands like wear her bra and panty during romance time and kiss her sandals while kissing her body, which i was saying no due to which our love session didn’t reach desired results.
So, just to make my GF happy I did what she asked and last few sessions has been good…..but now she is asking me something out of this world and its crime or you can say sin in our society:
1. she wants me to wear her bra and panty daily to office under my shirt and trouser and said no under vest is allowed as she want to show my bra straps under my shirt esp. to my female colleagues so that other friends of mine don’t engage me more.
2. She want me to wear her old skirt and blouse over her padded bra and panty 24×7 in my flat and also want me to become her full time maid doing all chores.
3. I dont understand what is this Chastity device she said that she want to lock my penis, means anything now she can fantasize which cant be possible silly things.
3. and last and most shocking now she wants me to wear ladies shirt/ blouse and ladies trouser and sandal with 2 inch outside home along with small ladies purse in summer and ladies cardigans and blazers over my blouse/ shirts in winter when we are together at evening or in slight dark while roaming around or late night movie shows.
Now I am really scared of all these and I don’t think in this way this relationship can proceed pls lady A can you guide my GF that pls she shouldnt do this as I love my GF so don’t want to quit but this is also cannot be possible to do and live my life like her way, what everbody will think n how will i face people everybody will think as I am a gay and what guard will think at pvr when he will see and feel that i am wearing bra n all under female blouse.
Sorry for my long letter but lady A pls give my gf advice and ask her to quit her bizare demands and my GF dont know about this letter so pls guide us she will defintely listen to you and my GF told u also did same things to your husbands but couldnt able to find any pics can you share some recent pics of your husband so that i can tell my GF the differences here in my and her looks and culture in india n london.
kindly revert in details and share your thought and advice to my GF over my critical situation n also share some recent pics of Alice and my gf also told that alice wears blouse and trouser outside home so pls share pics of that also.
regards
B
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Hello and how nice to hear what your girlfriend is doing to you. I hope she continues with her excellent approach to your feminisation. Feminisation of males should be independent of culture and country. Good luck in your journey into femininity. Lady Alex x
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Hello lady A,
how are you mam I have lot of respect for you, I have learnt a lot from your blog and writeup and it’s your and alice story which touched my heart and mind so deeply that I started feminizing my boyfriend B.
Today luckily while going through your recent post just an urge raised inside me to see your pic so I visited your about us page and here I found that my naughty boyfriend have requested you to advice me to change my thinking of feminizing him and approach towards him but you know right now he is wearing my black mid thigh skirt along with pink back button blouse my black padded bra and panty and also 3 inch high heels sandals and is standing and tottering in heels with his hands bound above his head to shower rod in attached bathroom of my bedroom, this is the punishment for him and how dare he send you message without my permission, he is such a useless fellow he forget to address you properly you are senior and inspiration to me next time if he is allowed to touch his lappy and write to you again i will make sure he should address you properly as Mistress/Mam or Madam.
Lady A you writes so well that it really enters directly to my mind and its great inspiration to ladies like us who got beaten once by my boyfriend. Lady A can you tell me how to go with my outdoor feminization plan of my B as he is now under complete control in home but really creates chaos and freaky scene whenever I ask him to try ladies blouse trouser bra panty and sandals in late evening walks or street shopping, I really need help on this as we don’t have car yet so I can’t use your car trick and I also want him to wear bra and panty in dark color under his work clothes but due to his big female company and few girls besties he is not willing to do this as he is more concerned of his image, known persons, friends and our great conservative Indian society, So please guide me how should I plan and proceed further to make her complete lady outside home.
And one last request from your big Indian fan please share some good recent pics of your obedient and submissive alice in full feminine attire at home, outside, in car, garden, balcony and events so that I can show and inspire B to learn and behave like alice and if alice can do this and sacrificed his male life for your pleasure then why can’t my naughty B pls share it on my mail id if not possible on blog then urabhik@gmail.com, I will be really grateful to you in advance for all this.
Thanks again for supporting me and I hope to hear a detailed plan and process alongwith some exciting pics of alice and you, which will influence our life further on the road of feminization, please take out sometime from your busy schedule for your biggest fan on this earth.
Thanks and lots of luv and hugs
keep writing and keep empowering women and this is what I call real women empowerment not the bullshit which our politicians and social workers do on only one day of women empowerment day by giving long speeches and by publishing print ads in newspapers.
So, hope to hear from you in detail alongwith pics do mail on urabhik@gmail.com….have to learn a lot from your knowledge experience and intelligent mind and alice is very lucky to have you as her life leader, kindly me to transform my B at least 50% of your Lucky girl alice.
Thanks
Maya
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Hello Maya and so nice to hear from you and the great work you’re doing with your sissy boyfriend. I will post some more photos of Alice in the future and maybe a couple more of me even but all suitably anonymous of course. Keep up the great work Maya
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Hello lady A,
how are you mam I have lot of respect for you, I have learnt a lot from your blog and writeup and it’s your and alice story which touched my heart and mind so deeply that I started feminizing my boyfriend B.
Today luckily while going through your recent post just an urge raised inside me to see your pic so I visited your about us page and here I found that my naughty boyfriend have requested you to advice me to change my thinking of feminizing him and approach towards him but you know right now he is wearing my black mid thigh skirt along with pink back button blouse my black padded bra and panty and also 3 inch high heels sandals and is standing and tottering in heels with his hands bound above his head to shower rod in attached bathroom of my bedroom, this
is the punishment for him and how dare he send you message without my permission, he is such a useless fellow he forget to address you properly you are senior and inspiration to me next time if he is allowed to touch his lappy and write to you again i will make sure he should address you properly as Mistress/Mam or Madam.
Lady A you writes so well that it really enters directly to my mind and its great inspiration to ladies like us who got beaten once by my boyfriend. Lady A can you tell me how to go with my outdoor feminization plan of my B as he is now under complete control in home but really creates chaos and freaky scene whenever I ask him to try ladies blouse trouser bra panty and sandals in late evening walks or street shopping, I really need help on this as we don’t have car yet so I can’t use your car trick and I also want him to wear bra and panty in dark color under his work clothes but due to his big female company and few girls besties he is not willing to do this as he is more concerned of his image, known persons, friends and our great conservative Indian society, So please guide me how should I plan and proceed further to make her complete lady outside home.
And one last request from your big Indian fan please share some good recent pics of your obedient and submissive alice in full feminine attire at home, outside, in car, garden, balcony and events so that I can show and inspire B to learn and behave like alice and if alice can do this and sacrificed his male life for your pleasure then why can’t my naughty B pls share it on my mail id if not possible on blog then urabhik@gmail.com, I will be really grateful to you in advance for all this.
Thanks again for supporting me and I hope to hear a detailed plan and process alongwith some exciting pics of alice and you will be really grateful if you do, which will influence our life further on the road of feminization, please take out sometime from your busy schedule for your biggest fan on this earth.
Thanks and lots of luv and hugs
keep writing and keep empowering women and this is what I call real women empowerment not the bullshit which our politicians and social workers do on only one day of women empowerment day by giving long speeches and by publishing print ads in newspapers.
So, hope to hear from you in detail alongwith pics do mail on urabhik@gmail.com….have to learn a lot from your knowledge experience and intelligent mind and alice is very lucky to have you as her life leader, kindly me to transform my B at least 50% of your Lucky girl alice.
Thanks
Maya
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No mercy! wow…………..
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i haven’t read much of your work but you are an incredibly talented writer. Alice is lucky to belong to you. i look forward to reading your work and to follow you and Alice as you experience beautiful memories together.
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Thank you very much for the compliment
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It is a privilege to read your posts Lady A.
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That a great blog, Lady A! I like your posts. I am looking forward to reading about the continuing feminisation of your husband.
I like your photos. You look very elegant in that pretty red skirt and the cute black sandals.
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Thank you I am happy you are enjoying our journey Lady A
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thank lady A , couple of months i came to know about your site , after that i am started feminizing my husband
just want to thank you guiding us and keep posting
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That’s great to hear Shelly. Do let me know how his feminisation progresses
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well i am no where what you have done Lady A
so far i have got him to shave all of his body hair , he is nice soft and smooth all the time
he wear panties all the time , and when at home he wears bra too
and at night he sleeps in nightie
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That’s great to hear Shelly. I think you need to get him into a skirt now. It sounds like it’s time.
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i would like him to wear skirts and dresses but easier said then done , i dont think he would ever war skirt or dress
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It doesn’t matter what he wants Shelly, you really need to get him into skirts and dresses. I used trickery on Alice and I suggest you look at this post which is an account of how I did it: https://ladiesontop.wordpress.com/2014/12/02/how-i-feminised-my-husband-part1/
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Dear Shelly, Lady A is right of course. It does not matter what your husband thinks. It is time for you to put him into a skirt or dress to continue and deepen his feminisation. You have already succeded in making him wear panties all the time (and a bra and a nightie at home). So you have already gone most of the way. As he wears panties every day and a bra and a nightie at home, it means that has accepted that he will be feminised. Use that to your advantage and persuade him to wear a skirt or a dress. Go for it!
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