Forced feminisation- using psychology

Having a lot of contact with family and friends recently has obviously prevented Alice from being  dressed correctly but also allowed me to think about how we should go about feminising our husbands/partners/boyfriends and any man in general. This isn’t about allowing those men who want to be feminised to dress female but about force feminising those men who don’t initially want to be girls, such as Alice.

Some of the forced feminisation naturally has be be forced through orders and threats and by trickery. I got Alice into her first skirt using the trickery method and linking it to sex. I got her to wear knickers when we had sex and gradually increased their femininity until they had a little skirt attached then switched to a real skirt. Names are important and calling her girl and Alice repeatedly has become the norm.

Much of my encouraged/forced feminisation of Alice however, was and is achieved by applying psychology and getting Alice to think as a girl. De-programming I call it as in de-programming her male characteristics and then re-programming female characteristics in their place. One way to achieve this was to get her to do more and more of what would typically be called female tasks, such as sitting on the toilet and shaving her legs. In addition I have increased her submissiveness, it’s amazing what you can achieve by just asking firmly – “get me a tea would you?”, “Rub my feet please” and so on.

However this was a long-winded way to get onto my point which was to involve your feminised man, or to be more feminised man, in selecting the looks that she likes. Even when we were with family, at night in bed alone I’d open the iPad to show pictures of feminised men to ask which ones Alice would prefer to look like. I did this even in our early days of her encouraged (forced) feminisation and I continue it. I make it very clear that Alice will be becoming even more feminine in the future and while that’s not negotiable, she can help choose her preferred look and that is negotiable within boundaries. We scan through pictures of transvestites and feminised males and I make her tell me which she thinks are the most attractive. I think this makes the process more inclusive and takes it away from me just ordering her to be a girl to us both working together to achieve what I want. I then post some of her favourites on Pinterest to save them for use as a model when we shop for nice clothes or just to show her for a reminder.

I do have some rules of course. I stress that I want Alice to be a girl rather than a sissy so she needs to choose pretty but everyday female clothing. She can only choose skirts or dresses and they must be quite short. And finally they should be in feminine colours such as pink, yellow or white for example. Now sometimes I do have to get ‘firm’ with her of course if she’s being awkward and forgets to put on a skirt as soon as she gets up for example, but mostly it’s quite easy these days and I have her well trained and re-programmed.

Here are some of Alice’s favourite pictures or at least the ones she was made to choose within the boundaries I give her.

 

 

Ongoing forced feminisation frustrations

Everyday life continues to get in the way of my feminisation project. However I realise now that that’s the way it is and as it’s unlikely that we’ll ‘come out’ to our family so I need to relax and think of other ways to push things forward and there are many ways to do this.

We continue to have an extended period of family contact of various types. Younger family members like to use our computer meaning a significant downturn in blog posts. I have found that it’s possible to have a dual life though, one for public appearances and one for how things really are. This doesn’t stop me thinking of Alice as a girl and ensuring that she continues to at least wear female underwear and nightclothes when we’re not alone. In fact I’ve insisted on her wearing a pink baby doll to bed every night rather than her pink nightie as the baby doll is soooooo feminine and sooooo short. At least we have the privacy of our bedroom and I use that to cement her femininity. A soon as we have a day or so of privacy then Alice is straight back into a skirt

Once we’re alone again next month I’m going to insist on Alice accepting a significant feminine upgrade which is wearing skirts outside the home. Ive been threatening this for some time but despite the lighter nights, it’s way overdue especially after our forced feminisation frustrations.

An evening drive in a skirt and a short walk to the cash point I think.

 

Alice through the looking glass

A reflective post this week as I was asked for some photos of Alice by a mistress I communicate with which I sent by mail but I then realised that they were just too good not to share globally.

They are quite recent and when I look at previous photos I have to say I’ve got her looking very feminine these days and I have to say my efforts and work are really paying off now. I hadn’t quite realised before.

I really love her in this little white ra-ra skirt, I believe I need to keep her in very feminine girlie clothing. She has to wear much shorter skirts than me, in fact I often wear trousers at home – just to rub it in a little that I can and she can’t. And I keep her mostly in pinks and whites, colours I never wear either. She’s also become much better in heels, practice certainly makes perfect. She did complain at first but, like many other changes I’ve made her undergo, once she becomes accustomed to the change then it becomes second nature.

 

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I’m working on her feminine posture and manner at present as they can still look masculine and this of course needs to be eradicated. You can also see a slight tummy roll which is still causing me problems getting rid of. I’m also wondering if I should go up from C-cup breast forms to something larger as I think she can take it.

Finally, it’s the same wig in all the photos, I just put it in a pony tail as she was baking and her hair was falling in her face. I then thought the bob style from face on looked cute.

Still Alice

Some comments on previous posts have reminded of something I do as part of my ‘encouraged’ feminisation* of Alice: the need to constantly ensure confirmation of Alice’s status as a girl. So why is this such an important part of the process.

Now Alice can be quite lazy. Not in the way of doing her chores and working but in maintaining her new found (ok given) femininity. With that in mind it falls to me to stay alert to ensure she maintains her standards. When she knows I’m watching closely and inspecting then it’s all fine.

The key thing to remember is that I’m having to re-programme Alice after  she has suffered from half a century of male social conditioning. That is no small task but certainly worth the effort as I’m really a firm believer in the benefits of feminising the male.

However in one area I do have to be quite observant and that is in the reactions of others. For example when we’re out of the home then Alice is in male disguise for appearance purposes. That means that on occasions she is referred to as ‘sir’ or ‘he’ in conversations. This is a big danger and a potential problem so as soon as is possible I need to assert firmly that the person was mistaken and Alice is not a man but  a GIRL. I’ll either remind Alice straight that she is a girl or I often ask her to tell me what her gender is following an experience of misunderstood gender. I expect her to tell me she’s a girl, which she does albeit quite sheepishly which I like.

The reprogramming effort does have to be constant to be effective so I always tell her she’s a good girl (or a bad girl). I do prefer calling her ‘girl’ rather than by her name Alice, I quite like it as it’s a more humiliating for her as in “Girl, make me a cup of tea.”

So the conclusion of all this is that despite the challenges, she’s still most definitely Alice.

*I really preferred the term encouraged feminisation over forced feminisation. I know I have to apply pressure on Alice at times for her to accept some of the changes but it’s for her own good and so the word forced is too strong in our case.

A little bit more feminised every week

Alice had to stand up in front of me on Sunday evening to tell me what she was going to do this week which would be a permanent addition to her feminisation. It turned into a bigger discussion and quite a nice chat.

So Alice said she would wear coloured toe nail varnish every day. I did remind her that she was supposed to anyway but it had been forgotten. So that’s this week’s feminisation upgrade – every day coloured toe nails. I have to confess it’s a little bit boring really as she should be doing this anyway but this time I will police it as I do with her body hair removal and clear triangular shaped clitty pubes and hopefully it will be come second nature. I enjoy Alice choosing as it makes her realise the gradual but certain transition she is going through.

I pointed out that I’m going to make my own choices for the next two weeks as she’s being too boring and conservative with her choices. Alice listened but didn’t actually flinch. I was quite direct that I want her feminised as much as possible and 24/7 is my goal. I do realise it would be difficult for her to suddenly start wearing dresses outside the house during the day however,  it was time to move into female trousers as a first step.I know we’ve also discussed this before it but making part of the feminisation weekly programme should make it happen this time. Secondly it’s really time for her to wear skirts outside the house and not just at femdom events. She does pick me up from the station in a skirt but doesn’t get out the cart. However it’s time we went driving more regularly with her in a skirt. I don’t mean just night time either. I’ll allow a change in the car to her (female) trousers if we have to get out in the day but we’ve really got to move this on. For night times then a little stroll outside with her fully female is really necessary now.

Alice knows I want this and it was always in my plan and I know I have to tread carefully to bring Alice along with me but a little bit of push and things do become normal eventually.

And this is where Alice is heading……

Weekly feminisation upgrade

I’d forgotten to write about this area. I’d set Alice the task of choosing one feminisation upgrade every week. As expected she chose really soft options and managed to ‘forget’ a couple of times as I did as I was busy at work and so it went off my radar a little. Valentine’s Day brought it back for me.

The reason was that I bought Alice a few little presents for Valentine’s: pink nail varnish, eyebrow colour pencil, eye liner, a set of eye make up with brush and a bottle of perfume. I’ve told Alice that on Sunday evening every week she will stand in front of me and tell me what new feminised thing she will start to wear at all times from that time.

Of course come Sunday evening she couldn’t think of anything, so she said. The default is that I choose and I thought I’d start with an easy one but feminine nonetheless. From now on she will use perfume EVERY day, whether we’re seeing family., friends or going to the office, going out (which I made her do anyway) or anything. She now wears perfume all the time everyday. And she will carry it and apply it in the evenings when we’re out or in.

It may seem a little thing but now we have something that is a little more obviously feminine at all times. Next week she needs to think of something new or I will choose again and it will be something a little more feminine again, maybe make-up, more likely clothing as this is where I really want things to lead to.

Christina one of my fellow Mistresses, gave me a wonderful idea which I hadn’t thought of – female watch and rings. I’ve told Alice these will be one of the choices she’ll make for her weekly female upgrade. She can choose this weekend or in the future. But it’s a matter of time either way. I would like to see her with the lady’s watch soon I think.

A Girl’s Valentine Evening in

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We had our Valentine’s Night on Saturday 13th. We both have to work on Mondays and we wanted to celebrate with a bottle of Prosecco so a heady Monday morning isn’t the best start to a week.

Alice cooked everything and served me my Prosecco with a curtsy, what a lovely evening we had. OK Alice had a bit of work to do but everything was so lovely. I’ve scanned in my Valentine’s card to Alice above.

Alice looked so lovely, so feminine. When Alice is so feminine I quite enjoy wearing trousers, on this occasion leather trousers. I did have to spank her at the start of the evening for spending too much time looking at herself in the mirror doing her make up and forgetting to compliment me on how I looked. A Mistress always has to be on their guard with feminised males as they do sometimes tend to get a bit carried away with their own looks and forget they are feminised for the Mistress’s purposes. So a little reminder is necessary.

Anyway that said here’s how Alice looked on Saturday. Very pretty.

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A bra and tits are not just for weekends!!!

Yes we went to the Devotion Femdom event again. What a great time we had, well I did anyway.

Although sadly I have no photos, Alice was at her most feminine in her new powder blue dress with a pleated skirt part. In fact some of the other people there called her a T-Girl which horrified Alice but I was extremely pleased with this reaction.

Miss Treat and Alison (in male guise) were the perfect hosts, ensuring that the ladies were treated as we should be by the submissive males. I really enjoyed the games as the submissives, girls and sissies had to sit on the dance floor and play pass the balloon like good little girls. Each time the music stopped the one with the balloon had to pop it and there was a forfeit inside. Alice had to write a poem for his favourite Mistress and recite it at the buffet later. She did this but to be honest Alice is good with words as she’s in Marketing and has no problem speaking to an audience so she got away very lightly with this one. Others had far more humiliating forfeits to endure.

I also enjoyed the musical chairs which ends each time with spanking the subs. Fantastic although Alice managed to slip off without anyone noticing including me as I was having too good a time.

Alice also had to serve the Mistresses at the Mistress tea party. Most submissives are not permitted here as the waitresses have to be feminised (and fully clothed of course.) I think that Alice actually enjoys this bit although she won’t admit it.

To be honest I think Alice seemed quite comfortable with the day which isn’t entirely the point. So…here’s what’s happening:

  1. I asked Alice what she thought about the fact she wore a bra and C-Cup breast forms all day. She said they felt ‘quite nice’. Good I said as now you’ll be wearing them all the time at home and outside at times. The bra is a permanent feature now anyway. I really love her with tits.
  2. Alice is far too comfortable in female clothes so I think next time I’m going to spice things up a little. I think body paint, pink bows and clothes pegs could be used……mmm.

Anyway to finish, here’s a copy of Alice’s poem to me (from her memory) which she wrote in about 5 minutes and presented to everyone at Devotion on Sunday.

 

It’s no surprise what I will say

My beautiful Mistress is Lady A

When we first met it was brilliant

She was bossy, sexy and dominant

She said she wanted me feminised

I wasn’t too keen I quickly advised

Despite this she turned me into a girl

With big tits, a dress and a pretty twirl

And every day I have to serve

I tell her though “It’s what you deserve”

Because she’s the Lady, The Queen, the Boss of the house.

And I’m just her feminised spouse

But I really am pleased she came into my life

Even though she turned me into her housewife

 

 

The good, the bad and the slightly unattractive

The good

Let’s take the good things first – clothes shopping for Alice – yeah!!!. This Sunday coming is Alice’s second outing at the Femdom club Devotion hosted by the wonderful Miss Treat and Alison. So firstly we went shopping for a nice new bra and knickers set. We know her size by now (Alice not Miss Treat); 40C chest and size 16 knickers so that was quite straight forward. I have no idea if those sizes mean anything to readers outside the UK so I’m afraid I can’t do a translation to metric.

Secondly I decided a nice new dress would be in order. Last time she wore a very short skirt and blouse but this time I wanted her in a dress. In the end I bought two but both online. They haven’t arrived yet so I can’t show them on Alice yet but here they are on line:

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And:

http://www.asos.com//ASOS/ASOS-Sheer-and-Solid-Pleated-Mini-Cami-Dress/Prod/pgeproduct.aspx?iid=5072113

Then we went to a number of charity shops in North London. The problem with charity shops is that there is what there is and there wasn’t much yesterday. We did get a nice little sparkly shoulder bag and a couple of blouses for Alice but it was good we’d already bought the dresses online as there really wasn’t much that was very pretty.

 

The bad

Despite a month of no chocolate, no cakes, no beer, very little wine, very little in the way of carbs (rice, pasta, potatoes) and regular gym, Alice’s weight and tummy size remains stubbornly at almost the same as a month ago. I’m at a loss to know what to do. When she was younger weight would fall off her easily but now it seems to cling on. I’m guessing that things are much more difficult in middle age. I admit I haven’t done the calorie restriction so maybe I really have to get tougher.

 

And the not so attractive

Well that has to be the slight male paunch that Alice still has due to the failure explained above. Until I get rid of this she’ll continue to display a middle aged male body shape and I won’t be able to move into the next phase of shaping her body to be more female.

So I’m looking forward to next weekend but disappointed that Alice won’t be looking her best with that tummy. Oh well I suppose that our lives will always have their ups and downs before reaching our goals.

 

Feminised Men need breasts

Alice always has to wear a bra – obviously. She wears a size C cup which is a good size, I like it. Her natural chest size is 40 inches but these days I’ve found you can buy 40C quite easily in supermarkets clothing departments and department stores. That may reflect the growing sizes of real women today or, as I like to think, the fact that more males are wearing bras.

Now whilst I am obviously very strict about Alice wearing a bra I realise that I’ve been a little slack on the breast front (a little joke there!). So I’ve told Alice that in the home wearing her breast forms is now mandatory at all times. She really has to look like a girl at all times and that means she needs to have tits. The moment she gets up they have to be put on. She has complained a little but it’s really not my concern. I really like to see them on her I am not sure why I was so slack before in making her wear them.