So now I have got Alice into the garden regularly in her black skirt. This was a brainwave on my part if I say so myself, a plain skirt that coupled with a plain tee skirt, doesn’t stand out too much or raise any attention. This has given Alice some confidence in being outside and has got used to being in the garden in a skirt. The other day she even hung the washing out in her skirt and this is something I’ve wanted her to do for ages – in a skirt I mean as she always puts the washing out of course as it’s her housewife duties to do so.
So things are going well again but they got even better last night. The benefit of late August evenings is that they can be very warm and it gets darker earlier.
So last night I told her to put on one of her lovely summer dresses. The one I chose is neither plain nor black but pleated and light with fine flowers and shoulder straps. I then told Alice that we’d be having dinner on the patio and she would be wearing her summer dress. Although she looked horrified, I pointed out that 1, she had been wearing a skirt outside for a couple of weeks now and 2, it was very dark (we eat quite late at around 9pm), so the neighbours are unlikely to see her. The patio is relatively secluded.
So things have been ratcheted up one more notch which shows the benefits of a gradual approach although I would prefer it if Alice were feminised all the time. Sadly this isn’t practical at present so I’m trying to push things as much as is possible and see where we go.
I haven’t told her yet but as tonight will be hot again, we’ll be eating on the patio once more. This time she will be in her pink bikini. I must remember to take a couple of photos this time.
I’m starting a new occasional series of posts looking at the followers of Ladiesontop. The first set is from a lovely girly called Dani. Her mistress took her out to the park the other day dressed as you can see in the photos below.
Here are her photos and very pretty too. This is what I like to see; a very feminine girly and well done to Mistress Amy, Dani’s mistress, for achieving this.
Any other photos and stories to share? I’d love to hear from mistresses too.
We’re here in the sun and I can’t wait to get out and explore and sample the food and wine.
Currently we’re in the hotel room and Alice is naked. She has to change immediately out of any male clothing to either female wear or nothing on entering the room ; as if it were our own home. I fancied her in nothing today. Seeing her little pubic triangle and her cute little clitty as she served me a cold drink got me to thinking about how we deal with the feminised male’s genital area. I’ve used various approaches to feminise, demean and denigrate her genitals because it could otherwise be an unwelcome reminder that she used to be male and we really don’t want her seeing it that way. Feminisation of a male’s pussy area is a crucial element of any mistress’s feminisation project. Without it, it just can’t succeed, skirts and dresses just being window dressing otherwise.
What I do want is it to function effectively though. So there’s my dilemma.
So after a few years now of trying different ways to deal with this vexing dilemma, here are my opinions and what I now do.
- I was a bit slow to re-name her little thing. I tried sissy stick and other demeaning names but there is only one option and that is for it to be a clitty. Full stop. Alice has a clitty, like all good girls. I sometimes even refer to it as a clitoris if I’m being serious
- First of all I didn’t know what to do about what to call her balls. It’s obvious really as they form part of her female genital area which I now call her ‘pussy’ and if I’m really pushed they are pussy balls.
- I started off making her shave her whole pussy area completely. The problem was that it made her look like a young boy which was not a look I wanted. I did enjoy her clitty and pussy area exposed a free of hair though. I have tried a Brazilian on her but the best is the triangle of pubic hair above a cleanly shaved clitty. It just looks sooooo feminine.
- Size of her pubic triangle: I’ve her with tried several sizes from very small little triangle to a larger one. It may seem strange but the larger triangle is for me the best and most female. She has to shave slightly away from her legs so it is still well defined but I’d say it’s about 5 or 6 inches wide at the top, tapering to a point at the base of her clitty. Also I’ve let it grow so it’s a little bushy. The contrast with her shaved smooth pussy area is delightful.
- Clittys (or is that clitties?) need to be part of your wider discipline and punishment routine. Spanking on the bum is a fundamental part of all discipline but never forget to find an excuse to slap her clitty as punishment. It’s a perfect way to show her how insignificant it is. Imagine it, telling your girlie to remove her knickers, lift her dress so you can slap something that in the past was their reason to be. Lovely. I use a wooden spatula or crop. Sometimes I just raise her skirt and slap her there through her knickers if she’s misbehaved. I tried face slaps but clitty slaps are so much more humiliating for her.
- Clitty’s do need to be dressed up from time to time. A pink bow is a great adornment but I also like to hang things from it such as necklaces and clip on earrings. I’ve even used chiffon scarves. I have pink and yellow body paint and painting it is good. She has to wear pink sparkly cock rings too which I think she likes, but that’s perfectly fine.
- CBT. I don’t want to really hurt Alice but I’ve learnt as part of her understanding that I do what I want, it is sometimes necessary to play a little. Clothes pegs on her pussy and balls are a fun way to do this and it’s demeaning as she has to sit there with her legs wide apart while I clip them on.I once used electricity on her at a femdom event and that was very nice as she had two electrodes on her pussy.
- Fairly tame but useful is to pull her around by her clitty when I want to show her something. For example in the past she sometimes forgot to sit on the toilet so I would lift her skirt, drop her knickers and pull her to the toilet but her little clitty to berate her. A little cat’s leach around it is also very effective for other times.
- And never forget to verbally abuse it. I never miss an opportunity, for example when the weather is cold, to tell her how “cute and tiny her pretty little clitty is.” Actually even if it’s not cold it’s fun and necessary.
Anyway these are my thoughts from Italy. I feel even hotter now…
Having a lot of contact with family and friends recently has obviously prevented Alice from being dressed correctly but also allowed me to think about how we should go about feminising our husbands/partners/boyfriends and any man in general. This isn’t about allowing those men who want to be feminised to dress female but about force feminising those men who don’t initially want to be girls, such as Alice.
Some of the forced feminisation naturally has be be forced through orders and threats and by trickery. I got Alice into her first skirt using the trickery method and linking it to sex. I got her to wear knickers when we had sex and gradually increased their femininity until they had a little skirt attached then switched to a real skirt. Names are important and calling her girl and Alice repeatedly has become the norm.
Much of my encouraged/forced feminisation of Alice however, was and is achieved by applying psychology and getting Alice to think as a girl. De-programming I call it as in de-programming her male characteristics and then re-programming female characteristics in their place. One way to achieve this was to get her to do more and more of what would typically be called female tasks, such as sitting on the toilet and shaving her legs. In addition I have increased her submissiveness, it’s amazing what you can achieve by just asking firmly – “get me a tea would you?”, “Rub my feet please” and so on.
However this was a long-winded way to get onto my point which was to involve your feminised man, or to be more feminised man, in selecting the looks that she likes. Even when we were with family, at night in bed alone I’d open the iPad to show pictures of feminised men to ask which ones Alice would prefer to look like. I did this even in our early days of her encouraged (forced) feminisation and I continue it. I make it very clear that Alice will be becoming even more feminine in the future and while that’s not negotiable, she can help choose her preferred look and that is negotiable within boundaries. We scan through pictures of transvestites and feminised males and I make her tell me which she thinks are the most attractive. I think this makes the process more inclusive and takes it away from me just ordering her to be a girl to us both working together to achieve what I want. I then post some of her favourites on Pinterest to save them for use as a model when we shop for nice clothes or just to show her for a reminder.
I do have some rules of course. I stress that I want Alice to be a girl rather than a sissy so she needs to choose pretty but everyday female clothing. She can only choose skirts or dresses and they must be quite short. And finally they should be in feminine colours such as pink, yellow or white for example. Now sometimes I do have to get ‘firm’ with her of course if she’s being awkward and forgets to put on a skirt as soon as she gets up for example, but mostly it’s quite easy these days and I have her well trained and re-programmed.
Here are some of Alice’s favourite pictures or at least the ones she was made to choose within the boundaries I give her.
Everyday life continues to get in the way of my feminisation project. However I realise now that that’s the way it is and as it’s unlikely that we’ll ‘come out’ to our family so I need to relax and think of other ways to push things forward and there are many ways to do this.
We continue to have an extended period of family contact of various types. Younger family members like to use our computer meaning a significant downturn in blog posts. I have found that it’s possible to have a dual life though, one for public appearances and one for how things really are. This doesn’t stop me thinking of Alice as a girl and ensuring that she continues to at least wear female underwear and nightclothes when we’re not alone. In fact I’ve insisted on her wearing a pink baby doll to bed every night rather than her pink nightie as the baby doll is soooooo feminine and sooooo short. At least we have the privacy of our bedroom and I use that to cement her femininity. A soon as we have a day or so of privacy then Alice is straight back into a skirt
Once we’re alone again next month I’m going to insist on Alice accepting a significant feminine upgrade which is wearing skirts outside the home. Ive been threatening this for some time but despite the lighter nights, it’s way overdue especially after our forced feminisation frustrations.
An evening drive in a skirt and a short walk to the cash point I think.
A reflective post this week as I was asked for some photos of Alice by a mistress I communicate with which I sent by mail but I then realised that they were just too good not to share globally.
They are quite recent and when I look at previous photos I have to say I’ve got her looking very feminine these days and I have to say my efforts and work are really paying off now. I hadn’t quite realised before.
I really love her in this little white ra-ra skirt, I believe I need to keep her in very feminine girlie clothing. She has to wear much shorter skirts than me, in fact I often wear trousers at home – just to rub it in a little that I can and she can’t. And I keep her mostly in pinks and whites, colours I never wear either. She’s also become much better in heels, practice certainly makes perfect. She did complain at first but, like many other changes I’ve made her undergo, once she becomes accustomed to the change then it becomes second nature.
I’m working on her feminine posture and manner at present as they can still look masculine and this of course needs to be eradicated. You can also see a slight tummy roll which is still causing me problems getting rid of. I’m also wondering if I should go up from C-cup breast forms to something larger as I think she can take it.
Finally, it’s the same wig in all the photos, I just put it in a pony tail as she was baking and her hair was falling in her face. I then thought the bob style from face on looked cute.
Some comments on previous posts have reminded of something I do as part of my ‘encouraged’ feminisation* of Alice: the need to constantly ensure confirmation of Alice’s status as a girl. So why is this such an important part of the process.
Now Alice can be quite lazy. Not in the way of doing her chores and working but in maintaining her new found (ok given) femininity. With that in mind it falls to me to stay alert to ensure she maintains her standards. When she knows I’m watching closely and inspecting then it’s all fine.
The key thing to remember is that I’m having to re-programme Alice after she has suffered from half a century of male social conditioning. That is no small task but certainly worth the effort as I’m really a firm believer in the benefits of feminising the male.
However in one area I do have to be quite observant and that is in the reactions of others. For example when we’re out of the home then Alice is in male disguise for appearance purposes. That means that on occasions she is referred to as ‘sir’ or ‘he’ in conversations. This is a big danger and a potential problem so as soon as is possible I need to assert firmly that the person was mistaken and Alice is not a man but a GIRL. I’ll either remind Alice straight that she is a girl or I often ask her to tell me what her gender is following an experience of misunderstood gender. I expect her to tell me she’s a girl, which she does albeit quite sheepishly which I like.
The reprogramming effort does have to be constant to be effective so I always tell her she’s a good girl (or a bad girl). I do prefer calling her ‘girl’ rather than by her name Alice, I quite like it as it’s a more humiliating for her as in “Girl, make me a cup of tea.”
So the conclusion of all this is that despite the challenges, she’s still most definitely Alice.
*I really preferred the term encouraged feminisation over forced feminisation. I know I have to apply pressure on Alice at times for her to accept some of the changes but it’s for her own good and so the word forced is too strong in our case.
Alice had to stand up in front of me on Sunday evening to tell me what she was going to do this week which would be a permanent addition to her feminisation. It turned into a bigger discussion and quite a nice chat.
So Alice said she would wear coloured toe nail varnish every day. I did remind her that she was supposed to anyway but it had been forgotten. So that’s this week’s feminisation upgrade – every day coloured toe nails. I have to confess it’s a little bit boring really as she should be doing this anyway but this time I will police it as I do with her body hair removal and clear triangular shaped clitty pubes and hopefully it will be come second nature. I enjoy Alice choosing as it makes her realise the gradual but certain transition she is going through.
I pointed out that I’m going to make my own choices for the next two weeks as she’s being too boring and conservative with her choices. Alice listened but didn’t actually flinch. I was quite direct that I want her feminised as much as possible and 24/7 is my goal. I do realise it would be difficult for her to suddenly start wearing dresses outside the house during the day however, it was time to move into female trousers as a first step.I know we’ve also discussed this before it but making part of the feminisation weekly programme should make it happen this time. Secondly it’s really time for her to wear skirts outside the house and not just at femdom events. She does pick me up from the station in a skirt but doesn’t get out the cart. However it’s time we went driving more regularly with her in a skirt. I don’t mean just night time either. I’ll allow a change in the car to her (female) trousers if we have to get out in the day but we’ve really got to move this on. For night times then a little stroll outside with her fully female is really necessary now.
Alice knows I want this and it was always in my plan and I know I have to tread carefully to bring Alice along with me but a little bit of push and things do become normal eventually.
And this is where Alice is heading……
I’d forgotten to write about this area. I’d set Alice the task of choosing one feminisation upgrade every week. As expected she chose really soft options and managed to ‘forget’ a couple of times as I did as I was busy at work and so it went off my radar a little. Valentine’s Day brought it back for me.
The reason was that I bought Alice a few little presents for Valentine’s: pink nail varnish, eyebrow colour pencil, eye liner, a set of eye make up with brush and a bottle of perfume. I’ve told Alice that on Sunday evening every week she will stand in front of me and tell me what new feminised thing she will start to wear at all times from that time.
Of course come Sunday evening she couldn’t think of anything, so she said. The default is that I choose and I thought I’d start with an easy one but feminine nonetheless. From now on she will use perfume EVERY day, whether we’re seeing family., friends or going to the office, going out (which I made her do anyway) or anything. She now wears perfume all the time everyday. And she will carry it and apply it in the evenings when we’re out or in.
It may seem a little thing but now we have something that is a little more obviously feminine at all times. Next week she needs to think of something new or I will choose again and it will be something a little more feminine again, maybe make-up, more likely clothing as this is where I really want things to lead to.
Christina one of my fellow Mistresses, gave me a wonderful idea which I hadn’t thought of – female watch and rings. I’ve told Alice these will be one of the choices she’ll make for her weekly female upgrade. She can choose this weekend or in the future. But it’s a matter of time either way. I would like to see her with the lady’s watch soon I think.
We had our Valentine’s Night on Saturday 13th. We both have to work on Mondays and we wanted to celebrate with a bottle of Prosecco so a heady Monday morning isn’t the best start to a week.
Alice cooked everything and served me my Prosecco with a curtsy, what a lovely evening we had. OK Alice had a bit of work to do but everything was so lovely. I’ve scanned in my Valentine’s card to Alice above.
Alice looked so lovely, so feminine. When Alice is so feminine I quite enjoy wearing trousers, on this occasion leather trousers. I did have to spank her at the start of the evening for spending too much time looking at herself in the mirror doing her make up and forgetting to compliment me on how I looked. A Mistress always has to be on their guard with feminised males as they do sometimes tend to get a bit carried away with their own looks and forget they are feminised for the Mistress’s purposes. So a little reminder is necessary.
Anyway that said here’s how Alice looked on Saturday. Very pretty.