It’s almost the weekend…….

And that means Alice’s first public showing as a girlie. I really can’t wait. Alice told me she has butterflies every time she thinks about it.

I have started planning our clothing, especially Alice’s :-) I’ve told her that for the event at the club she will be wearing a very short mini skirt, a blouse, stockings and women’s shoes (obviously) plus her long brown wig as the greying balding look isn’t very feminine. A debate has centred around the skirt she’ll be wearing which I consider progress as initially she’d been arguing about wearing trousers and shirt and ‘see how it goes’. Alice has said she would prefer to wear her knee length chiffon skirt rather than the mini skirt if forced to choose but still prefers trousers to start with. I am so happy to be discussing which skirt she will wearing out, this is really massive progress and of course she’ll be forced to wear a skirt.

I’ve told Alice that she needs to be cleanly shaved all over her body, including making sure that her little pubic triangle is nice and neat. I know it will be hidden but it’s all part of her feeling feminine.

The lovely lady who organises the event has suggested we meet up beforehand so we can make Alice try a few dresses on for us. I accepted but Alice thinks I’m joking about this.

Finally, but very important, I get to have other sissies serving me, being respectful and generally treating me as the Lady. You really can’t believe how much I’m looking forward to this weekend!

An excited Lady A xxx

The ultimate sanction part 2

I just thought of an addition to the previous post regarding sanctions. Whilst the ultimate sanction would be to stop all feminisation for Alice, the reality of the discipline is usually enough. One discipline I often apply is not allowing Alice to wear female clothing which since she can’t wear male clothing at home, means wearing nothing or, more usually, not being allowed to wear a skirt or knickers for a while so she’s all exposed. I usually apply this when she comes into the house after being outside and forgets to change into a skirt immediately. Or she sometimes puts on trousers as we’re going out soon.

I particularly love it when she finally asks and pleads to be able to put a skirt on. She then has to tell me how nice it feels. It’s the ultimate satisfaction (for me).

The ultimate sanction

Although we’re on a countdown to Alice ‘coming out’ I’m still on the theme of keeping my husband feminised. Alice really enjoys being feminised BUT…. if she had her own way it would be a regular sexual game rather than a lifestyle. She would certainly not want to be humiliated in front of many others as she will be next weekend. I have found out that I really love having a girlie feminised husband in female clothes – all the time.

So I’ve written about having to maintain Alice as a girl. Firstly Alice can be lazy with regard to feminine necessities such as hair removal, make up, perfume and so on. Secondly after 50 odd years of social conditioning about how to live as a male, I have had to teach and condition her regarding a whole new female approach to life

Whilst I generally apply a mix of coaxing and discipline, I have found the ultimate sanction which I’ve applied twice, when things have come to an impasse. Bear in mind that being feminised is an incredible turn on for Alice hence the fact that she does it. However a short while ago she had become incredibly lazy in her hair removal and the shaping of her little pubic triangle. I told her clearly that if she didn’t keep her body hair removed (and shaped) and be a girl in all ways then we would stop the feminisation entirely and never return. This was too much for her and from then on all has been pretty good. I have had to remind her regarding the event this weekend that it’s going to happen otherwise no more feminisation ever.

We’re going.


Watch out for back sliding…

As part of my theme on maintaining your husband, boyfriend or male partner as a feminised girl, you have to be aware of ‘back-sliding’. These are the excuses for not putting on female clothing. With Alice I have her feminised now and she puts on her skirt or dress every morning without any involvement from me. There are still times however, when I need to intervene as she’s still prone to looking for ways to put on trousers at home.

The latest excuse was that she was doing some decorating and it was a little chilly so she said she would just ‘slip on a pair of old jeans’. These are the jeans she wears when gardening – an unfortunate necessity as the neighbours can see into the garden. All ladies have to watch out for these little ‘innocent’ comments and react instantly and reaffirm her femininity. I usually use friendliness and compliments although this isn’t the first time she’s tried this trick when decorating.

“You don’t want nasty trousers. You’re a pretty girl and pretty girls don’t wear men’s clothes now do they?” and I fished out an old skirt and some thicker tights and held them out with a smile. Alice reluctantly slipped them on. “Oh you look sooo cute” I said and occasionally watched her working in the little skirt and smiled and made some compliments and even put my hand up her skirt once or twice.

Problem solved.



Feminising your man requires continuous patience and determination

Unless you have one of those husbands or partners who really does want to be a woman or a sissy or is very weak, then feminising him is going to require effort on your part. But it’s really worth it I believe.

Alice is a case in point. She enjoyed playing dressing up for bedroom games but didn’t want to be a girl full time. It was just a fun game for her. She was and is a successful professional business person with confidence and assertiveness. In addition, although slim, she is tall with broad shoulders and what you could call a chiselled masculine face. All very nice as a man but quite a challenge for me once I’d decided to feminise him.

However it has certainly been worth the effort. And if I’m honest, seeing residual masculinity in her face and body only enhances the experience and feeling of control.

There are and I believe always will be a need to continually maintain Alice’s femininity now I’ve got mostly her there. When I’m at home it’s very easy as I can control things. However I’m out at work from Monday to Friday so some ‘maintenance’ is required. One simple way I do this is by setting Alice little housewife tasks. Another simple way is by sending daily text messages asking “how is my pretty girl doing” or “Are you having a nice day Alice?” “Are you being a good girl?” or “you looked really pretty in your little skirt this morning” and so on. It’s very effective. When I get home I always make sure I tell her she’s pretty or mention her dress for example. It’s also very important to strongly associate my loving behaviour, my praise, rewards and sex with her femininity in everything I do. I buy her little presents such as new lip stick, pretty knickers, hair clips. I do things for her such as brush and style her hair or help her with her lip stick or make up. I then associate any anger and coldness with her not doing as I want and her not being feminine enough. Alice doesn’t really like conflict so I provide it if she isn’t sufficiently feminine.

The other area where I face challenges is that when we’re not alone, usually outside the home, Alice has to dress as a male. Sometimes she wears ‘unisex’ clothing but that’s not always possible. She always wears knickers of course, often a bra and usually hold up stockings under her trousers. Again it’s important to call her Alice and a girl and I use both at all times outside the home in our general conversation reverting to dear, dearie or darling when it’s not possible. As you will have read, growing her hair means she can now feel in on her neck and over her ears. I also apply perfume to her face whenever we go out and  I’ve started applying a little foundation at times.

At home, regular inspection is vital to ensure that Alice is following all her feminine routines such as hair removal. To be honest though the small gradual incremental changes means that Alice has got used to being female and always wears her female clothes at home without me doing anything more besides some gentle reminders occasionally if she’s a bit slow to change. I have to revert only occasionally to being aggressive if she’s been lazy. Being a girl means being ladylike and taking great care of your appearance.  She’s learning.

It’s the little things that keep it real but to all you ladies out there, you do need to keep on top of it.


Yes hair! As someone who arrived late into the lifestyle of ‘encouraged’ feminisation, I am still learning and I didn’t actually realise the importance of hair to the process.

I did of course realise the importance early on about shaving. Having Alice’s legs and body shaved was vital to her feminisation process. Shaping her pubes into a little pussy triangle was another important step after initially having it all shaved clean. What I missed until recently was the real hair on Alice’s head. I hadn’t paid it any attention since as I’ve mentioned many times, it is thinning and grey. So for the three years or more of her increasing feminisation I left it as it was; a short cropped style. Full feminisation was achieved at home with a wig and I had thought that was it.

What I missed was the fact that although not perfect, having her real hair longer made Alice more feminine outside the house too. Also as important is the ritual of styling and dressing her hair. It’s growing very slowly :-( but now it’s half way over her ears and growing down her neck I can start to do female things with it. Blow drying is good as it straightens it and I can curl it under or up slightly (very slightly as it’s still short). I can also ensure she uses various female hair products. Eventually I can get it done by a stylist in the way the nail lady does her nails. This is important for any girl.

As for dressing her hair, I can now put in clips with bows and flowers to hold back her fringe or just for a pretty look. This wasn’t possible before as her hair was too cropped. For the first time I’ve been able to put in a tiny pony tail, maybe just a couple of inches long but it’s a start. I’ve also been able to put in two very small pony tails at the side of her head using thin elastic bands.

I know it’s not perfect but I now realise that even if your partner has some male traits regarding hair, there are still options to make her much more feminised anyway. And if like me, you have to revert your husband to a male look for appearances sake outside the house, this allows for a much more feminised look for your girlie at all times.

Work with what you have. And there’s still the pretty wig for the home anyway.



What I love about forced feminisation

I’ve had a few requests from readers to explain what it is that I and other women get from feminisation, submission and humiliation of men, in particular our partners. Phew! That question probably needs a thesis written about it. I’m not going to write a thesis but I will try to explain my personal feelings about what I really love.

Other viewpoints

Firstly though I need to say that every woman and every couple who practice this lifestyle are different. All are good if consensual and benefit the participants personal desires. Some prefer to have a BDSM relationship or a relationship where the man is most definitely still a male but kept under the woman’s control, for example through the wearing of a cock cage and other methods of control. Hannah Jay, a dominant wife, has a view and writes a great blog about her own views and also kindly referred back to my blog. Have a look here for her own opinions.




I love feminisation

However I will write about my own feelings about what I want and how we live as a couple.

  1. Feminisation – I have to say that my main interest is in enforced feminisation, as any reader of my blog will know. Intellectually, I really don’t understand  why society has decided that males wear short plain hairstyles, trousers and shirts covering their whole bodies yet women are expected to have ‘pretty’ hairstyles’, skirts showing their legs and other clothing to accentuate their body shapes. These feminine clothes put the female in a submissive position with regard to men due to the exposure of their bodies and the feminine nature of the clothing. I use the term feminine here as a description of the clothing rather than as clothes for women. I see no logical reason at all why men shouldn’t wear the same feminine clothing as some women. I see no reason why we shouldn’t have a fully matriarchal society.
  2. Power – As a naturally independent, dominant and assertive lady, I like to be the lead. In fact I thrive on the power I feel from feminising and humiliating Alice and seeing her enjoy it too, because she does. I know that my dominant side was one of the initial attractions between us and I detected a gentle side to him even though he was and is a successful professional in the business world. Discipline is an important element of maintaining power and again a huge excitement for me to have that power. However I’m excited to see men in feminine clothing and being submissive. I would go so far to say that the power of feminising a man  is sexually exciting and like a drug high. Our relationship has evolved over the past 3 or 4 years from a very conformist husband / wife relationship to one where I am the lead and my husband is now a girl in appearance and manner at home.
  3. A female friend – I don’t want a real woman as a partner, but I do want my husband to look and act just like a woman and for us to have shared female interests in clothing, perfume, make-up and so on. But I do want him with a fully functioning penis. I want to know that physically beneath the make-up and clothing there is a man, well hidden. I prefer that there are little physical signs that there is a man hidden there. When we make love I like to think that we’re sharing the penis between us. My real wish is that he (Alice) lives permanently as if he were a woman and for this reason I only think of her and refer to her in the feminine form and generally as ‘girl’ and as Alice of course.
  4. Humiliation – More than just feminine clothing, I prefer to dress Alice in much more feminine clothing than me. I wear dresses to the knee or trousers. Alice generally has to wear mini skirts or dresses, often white, pink or yellow and never ever trousers in the home. I’ve recently ‘encouraged’ her to wear schoolgirl clothing as I like her as a girlie girl rather than a woman since women are the lead. I love her body to be exposed and to be a sexual object for my eyes. It’s very important for me to denigrate her penis which is a clitty and her genital area a pussy. The penis can be a strong indication of maleness and therefore I just adore feminising it and telling Alice just how insignificant it is.
  5. Submission – I particularly enjoy Alice’s clitty on display. This is about submission just as as you often see animals open their legs to submit. By having to pin up her skirts she is completely vulnerable and I have the power. My dearest wish is to show her off to my friends like this but I haven’t yet found a way to bring this up with them although showing her in a skirt to the nail lady was a fantastic feeling. Curtsying is an important element to demonstrate her submission to the matriarch of the family.
  6. Pampering – Any powerful woman likes to be pampered. Alice does my hair, my nails at times, massages my legs and feet, applies mositurisor and generally runs the house. We do often cook together but Alice will always serve me and clear the table up afterwards including the obligatory curtsy of course.

Alice obviously enjoys the feminisation but has always viewed it as a game rather than a lifestyle for her. I have had to push it increasingly and methodically and sometimes she has been reluctant. I have to stay on top of things and inspect her pussy, legs and body for hair as she can be lazy. When we have been out and Alice has worn trousers I still sometimes have to tell her to change into her skirt on our return home. Again I enjoy the control over her clothing.

Finally I have to state that in all other respects our marriage is normal. We don’t spend all our time talking about feminisation as we do normal things in and outside the home such as listening to music, watching TV, reading, decorating, cinema, meals out and so on. Alice still enjoys many things that men like such as football and sports in general. The only difference is that Alice does all this at home as a woman and outside with knickers, bra and stockings under her clothes and perfume on her face and body. I no longer refer to her as a man or her old name just as a girl or Alice, even outside. If with family or friends I avoid her name of course and use darling or dear, but otherwise I call her Alice or girl.

What’s next?

If you’d have told me two years ago that we’d be where we are today regarding Alice’s feminisation and my control I would have laughed but here we are and I’m very happy and so is Alice. The next stages though are more complex.

  1. Weight reduction – The easiest is to reduce Alice’s weight and I really need to focus on this as the next step I’ve been lax but I can’t see a big challenge from Alice here just a few moans about not having chips or chocolate.
  2. I need to get Alice to continue to wear increasingly feminine clothes outside the house, which eventually will lead to skirts and dresses. This is a tough one and Alice is really not keen on wearing skirts outside. I need to return to some trips to more secluded places. Really it’s about Alice becoming used to something and it becoming the norm for her.
  3. Pierced ears – I haven’t forgotten and I will revisit this again in the near future.
  4. Longer hair – unfortunately Alice is thinning slightly on top but I’ve stopped her from having her hair cut anyway. Although not suitable at home where a wig will always be best, outside the house it has started to soften her face. It allows me to style her hair for her and I’ve started to curl it up a little at the ends with the dryer and a round brush. In a couple of weeks I’ll be able to put it her first little pony tail or side knots and maybe use straighteners. I wish I’d though of this a long time ago.
  5. Permanently remove body hair. Again Alice has balked at the idea but she has to shave her body anyway every other day so I think I will get my own way on this one. I have an electrolysis machine so we can do it ourselves.
  6. Boobs – I would like Alice to eventually have real boobs. This is a big big step. I have raised it with Alice who is obviously not keen but I think small implants will add a lot to her look. I have this one as longer term but it’s on my list.


Progress continues to be good

I’m very pleased with the progress of Alice. Despite her lack of pierced ears (at the moment), in all other respects her increasing feminisation is going very well.She now wears very very feminine clothing.

Her real hair is growing… slowly. All the time I’ve known Alice, her own hair has been very short and I didn’t realise it was quite so wavy when longer. Because of this it seems to be taking some time to grow as it’s curling up or out a little. However, half her ears are now covered and it falls over her collar, if she’s wearing one but I want it longer still. I make sure it’s blow dried flat it to make it straighter and longer looking but eventually I’ll be able to use straighteners on it. I want to be able to put two side pony tails in her hair sometimes or a back pony tail with a large pink ribbon tied in a bow. She will then be able to wear a pony tail outside the house although maybe without the pink bow although I think we could still maybe get away with something quite feminine. I’ve already started using hair bands on her head and Alice bands (appropriately) and these are starting to look good with her slightly longer style. The biggest snag is of course the thinning top. She’ll always need to wear a wig when fully female but when she’s not wearing one (outside the house or in bed) then the longer hair is better than nothing. I remember reading about a product in the past that could be sprayed on thinning hair to give it the appearance of full hair but I can’t find it now. If still around, this could be useful.

In the house I continue to make her pin the front of her skirts and dresses up and for her to go without knickers. I ensure there’s just a small area open so that she has the fullness of the skirt but that her clitty is fully on show to me. It’s not necessary when I’m out at work obviously but I call her when I’m on my way home so she’s exposed for my return. An additional area I haven’t really mentioned before is that it’s important to belittle her clitty. Not just by feminising it or slapping it but by words. It really is a key part of removing any residual masculinity in my opinion. Alice has to know her clitty is insignificant but equally I get a lot of enjoyment out of doing it. So I like to tell her she has a ‘cute little clitty’, or if she’s cooking or cleaning, to mind her ‘little thing’. When it’s decorated, I make sure I tell her how ‘pretty’ it is, a ‘pretty clitty’. It makes me laugh anyway.

One downside is in the weight reduction. Although slim she’s not slim enough but we haven’t got very far and much of that is down to me I must confess as I haven’t pushed it. We’ll see what I can do about it.

I’ve had two new ideas this week. The first one was when we were out shopping and by chance saw all the schoolgirl clothing for sale. I REALLY like this and Alice is going to have to wear this style in the very near future, I don’t know why I didn’t think about it before to this extent. I wanted to buy some straight away especially the little grey short pleated skirts. Of course they were all too small. I’ll have to look on line. The other new idea I’ve had is false eyelashes. Alice unfortunately has those short eyelashes that some men have so we’re going to buy some false ones and she can wear these.

Just when I think I’ve exhausted ideas of what to do next something else always seems to comes up.

I’ve done a naughty thing

I don’t like to involve strangers in our (ok my)  lifestyle choice unless it was their choice to be involved or they were accepting of it. This includes shop workers and so on. That doesn’t mean I don’t want people to see Alice fully feminised because I really do.

The young lady who comes to our house to do our nails is obviously not stupid though and painting my girlie husband’s toe nails pink, manicuring Alice’s finger nails and applying clear varnish means she’s obviously fully aware of the situation even though Alice always wears a pair of trousers and a unisex top whenever she’s been to the house.

The other week when the young lady was here, I shouted at Alice when she refused to have her ears pierced and I called her a naughty girl or something. The young lady was embarrassed and I really didn’t want to make her feel bad or bring her into things without her acceptance. It’s been on my mind so at the weekend I called her to apologise for dragging her into our lifestyle argument and then to see if she would still come to do our nails. She told me that it was perfectly fine and said she was embarrassed by the argument and not by me calling Alice a naughty girl or by painting Alice’s nails pink. She said it was up to us what we did and it was just business for her and, although not her lifestyle choice, she had no problem with our own personal choices and she would continue to come round and paint our nails. She said she really didn’t even care if my husband wore dresses and then laughed as if it were a ridiculous idea), She said she would be happy to continue to do our nails as we were friendly and good customers.

I of course spotted an opening and told her that he (I was talking to her) only changed into trousers for her appointment and at all other times he (talking to her) wore a skirt or a dress at home. “Really” she exclaimed “Are you serious?” I told her I was very serious and that’s how we lived. “Ok” she replied ” I said, it’s really not a problem for me if that’s what you want to do”. I told her to just treat my husband as a girl and call her Alice. I told her if she really wasn’t bothered then I wouldn’t worry about Alice changing out of her skirt next time.

“Fine” she said “if that’s what you both want it’s really no problem for me, see you Wednesday next week”

So on Wednesday morning next week Alice will be meeting the young lady dressed in a lovely skirt and frilly top. She was horrified when I told her. However she currently only has skirts and dresses in the house as I’ve moved her trousers to a safe place away from the home for now so it’s a skirt or nothing! I can’t wait, Alice has nowhere to hide.