A bad girl’s punishment continues

Despite the fact that Lady A and her girlie husband live in a female led relationship, it is important to stress that it is a loving and otherwise normal relationship. They eat together like any other married couple, watch TV together and generally do everything vanilla couples do. Lady A and her girlie were talking over dinner last night. The discussion point was regarding the fact that girlie didn’t seem 100% aware that he had to be a girl every moment possible. It was a normal wife/husband friendly discussion except for the topic of course. Lady A told him (the male term is only used to differentiate between girlie and Lady A), that he (she) didn’t seem to be fully aware that he (she) was now female every possible moment and that he only wore male attire outside to conform to social expectations and avoid problems. She was correct he hadn’t quite bought into the idea. At times he (she) dragged his (her) feet or ‘forgot’ to change immediately on entering the home. Or at times ‘forgot’ to put on a dress or skirt in the morning and found a pair of trousers. Lady A explained that she loved him feminised. It was what she wanted , it was exciting for her and she felt even more loving seeing him in a pretty dress with nice make up and hair band

Girlie was still being punished for the indiscretion two days ago. He was wearing high heeled shoes, a necklace and a bra but nothing else. Lady A told her girlie that he had to learn that he was now a girl and as a girl he will always wear dresses and skirts whenever possible. So Lady A had a plan and what Lady A says goes. The two day punishment is now over. However, whilst girlie will be permitted to wear a blouse, a top and stockings he (she) will not be allowed to wear anything else until Lady A is convinced that he really WANTS to wear a nice pretty skirt. He will have to plead to her that he wants to wear a pretty skirt. She has to believe him. Until that time he will remain uncovered at all times at home from the waist down and the top of the legs up.

He will have to dress like this for the whole weekend and she will ask him on Sunday night and guage whether he really wants to be a girl and wear a skirt. In the meantime the words BAD GIRL Lady A wrote on his clitty stick will be on display for a little longer.

Feminisation Stories

Why don’t you have a look at my FREE feminisation stories. These are my fantasies, I would like to be in the situations of the dominant lady in my stories. I like to imagine the humiliation of my girlie husband as the other protagonist. Click on the my feminisation stories link below and choose one of my stories: The new job or A Sister-in-Law’s Law

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I hope you enjoy them and please do let me know what you think of them, give me some comments and new ideas….

Lady A

More attention required

Lady A is ramping up the relationship change. It’s fine to have her girle mostly feminised and to administer punishment when neccesary (and for her fun and pleasure too of course). However she’s worried that her girl doesn’t always pay sufficient attention to her pleasure.Lady A has set out a new regime for her girlie wife.

She doesn’t mean just sexual pleasure which is fine, but she demands that she be spoilt too. Arriving at home after a busy day and being picked up at the station in the car by her former girlie husband now girlie wife in a dress, on arriving at home she demands that she be treated as the lady she is. Her coat should be removed and hung up. Her shoes removed and put away. She should be served a tea whilst she relaxes on the sofa. She demands that her feet and legs be massaged while taking her tea. At times if she’s been on her feet at work then maybe her feet should be washed.

This is the role she expects from her girl (former husband).

You’re no longer a man, you’re a girl now

We started on the ‘encouraged’ feminisation road only some 3 years ago. For most of the journey we have gradually increased the time that Lady A’s girlie husband was feminised and gradually increased the level of feminisation.For example although now always in knickers with pink toe nails, girlie husband would always have times being a man such as when going out of the house. So we had a distinction between girlie husband and socially acceptable husband.

We do have to maintain appearances with family, friends and neighbours and we need to continue this. However Lady A really wants her girlie husband to be a girl all the time. She has put in place new rules, such as pink nail varnish on his toes at all times, and now she is ready for the next phase of his feminisation. This will start from tomorrow morning and these are the new things he must do (in addition to the exisiting rules of course).

1. From tomorrow her husband will no longer be referred to as her husband. He will be her wife. You will see this from now in the blog and he will be called Lady A’s wife or the girl.

2. He will never again be referrred to as a ‘he’ ever. ‘She’ and ‘her’ only. She is now a girl.

3. She (Lady A’s wife) will grow her hair longer. This will make her more female in appearence. However, it’s a bit thin on top due to some inconvenient male hormones remaining and her age so she will buy a wig and wear this at home. She will also at times wear a hair band or a pony tail when working or cooking.

4. Lady A’s wife will grow her nails longer and wear nail varnish at all times. Clear outside the home and pink or red around the house.

5. The girl will now buy some short housemaid’s dresses with a small apron when cleaning and cooking at home.

6. The girl will dispose of all her male socks and wear only feminine tights or stockings. Even when going out in male clothes for appearences sake, the girl will wear tights or stockings under her trousers.

7. The girl will wear female perfume everyday.

8. The girl will wear skirts when driving at all times. She can slip into trousers over the top when leaving the car for appearences sake.

9. The girl will dispose of her wardrobe of shirts used for appearences sake outside the house. She will buy replacement blouses  to wear instead.

10. The girl will get her ears pierced. She won’t have to always wear earrings outside the house (for appearences sake) but Lady A wants her to have her ears pierced like most girls.

11. The girl will wear a bra at all times unless it’s really a difficult situation.

12. The girl will dispose of her wardrobe of male pullovers, jumpers and cardigans. Female ones will be bought to replace them.

13. The girl will wear make up every day. Light foundation and eye make up for outside and full make up at home.

We are also looking onto where we can find flat female footwear in UK size 9 for wearing outside the house. Obviously high heels are always worn at all times indoors.

Lady A wants her girl to only wear female clothes so once the new clothes have been bought her girl will only have male trousers to wear outside the home. Lady A is looking at larger size (in leg length) female trousers on line to see if there is anything suitable. Once successful her girl will only have female clothes.

Lady A has to stay on top of things

The temperature has dropped in London since Boxing Day and, from experience, Lady A knows she has to keep on tops of the situation at this time. Her girlie husband is liable to need a bit of ‘encouragement’ to stay feminised at home. It’s all too easy for him to slip even after all this time. He put on a pair of trousers yesterday in the morning for the first time for a long time. They were going to stay at home so he was breaking Lady A’s rules. He complained that he was feeling a little chilly around his legs when he was in his nightie so decided to put on a pair of trousers. Even though the central heating was on full. “Oh no you’re not!” said Lady A who was not at all happy. However she was not unsympathetic to his feeling of being a bit cold. Even though she was wearing trousers herself, they are obviously not permitted for her girlie husband. The danger is that things could slip back to him being male with all the problems that entails.

Luckily, their skirt size is similar so he is able to wear those skirts of Lady A’s with elasticated waistbands. Lady A announced that she was not prepared to drop the no trousers rule. However, she would relax the 9 inches above the knee rule during the chillier weather. She found a couple of knee length skirts with a lining and he was ordered to remove his trousers and wear these skirts during the colder weather. This he did of course and normality was resumed in the household.

A Christmas Femdom Poem

A Christmas Femdom Poem by Lady A

T’was the night before Christmas and there’s barely a sound

But Lady A wants attention and look what she’s found

Her girlie husband in a short schoolgirl’s skirt

“Pamper me now” she orders so curt

He kneels down before her, so female and sweet

He kisses her toes, massages her feet

Lady A’s happy, a smile on her face

Looking down at her husband, all pink frills and lace

It may soon be Christmas but a punishment he won’t lack

As he pulls down his knickers, prepared for a smack

Lady A’s ready, she raises her belt

And brings it down fiercely, oh that he felt.

Punishment over, he thanks her so much

And prepares the dinner with a good girlie touch

Lady loves him and loves what she can see

As he serves her the food with a respectful curtsy

Hair tied with a bow, lipstick so bright

He looks  just like a women from the first sight

Her girlie husband, so feminine, so meek

As he listens submissively to Lady A speak

“Women in charge, it’s what I believe

Every day, every minute, but especially on Christmas Eve….



Obedience and Discipline

We haven’t covered this area that much in our blog. That’s probably because we like to think of ourselves as quite normal. That’s to say that we believe a wife led marriage with attraction, affection, love and a feminised husband is normal. As we’ve written before, why should a male led relationship with a feminine supporting wife be normal if a female led relationship with a feminised supporting husband cannot be. Of course it’s perfectly normal. And this is why probably we haven’t gone on much about discipline and obedience to the lady of the house. It takes us into the possible realms of  fetish lifestyle and we want to feel ‘normal’.

However, in a wife led relationship with a feminised husband, discipline is a key part of the deal and we are no different to any other couple in this regard. Lady A’s girlie husband has the housewife tasks to perform and above all, he has to show respect and devotion to the Lady of the house at all times. Lady A therefore has two types of discipline: management discipline and punishment discipline. Management discipline is the everyday discipline that Lady A uses to manage the relationship and ensure obedience. Punishment discipline is obvious and occasionally necessary.

Management Discipline:

Lady A will spank her girlie husband when she feels like it. This is not associated with any misdemeanor that her girlie will have done. Lady A believes that management discipline is vital for any female led relationship to ensure that standards never slip and to demonstrate who is in charge. The discipline can be a number of things:

1. Lady A has recently started using a belt to spank her girlie. Girlie has to bend over, drop her knickers to her ankles and raise her skirt to show her bare bottom. Lady A will spank it with a belt. She feels the belt is a very suitable article to demean her girlie husband with.

2. Lady A will use a riding crop using the same approach as above but usually when Lady A is feeling very ‘mistressy’.

3. Lady A will use a hair brush or bare hand as for 1 and 2.

4. Lady A will tell her girlie to drop her kickers and raise the front of her skirt/dress to expose her pussy and clitty stick. Lady A will slap girlie’s clitty stick with her hand, slapping it from side to side. On other occasions she will tell girlie to hold out her clitty stick by holding the end. Lady A will then slap girlie’s clitty with a ruler or with her riding crop.

5. Clothing discipline. Lady A will ensure humiliation every so often by ensuring that girlie will wear something extremely humiliating. For example girlie husband will have to wear a very short and frilly pink ballerina type skirt that doesn’t actually cover her pussy. Girlie will not be permitted to wear knickers, just the skirt and a pink blouse. Oh and 4 inch heels to accentuate the showing.

6. Clitty and pussy decoration. Aside from slapping it, Lady A will occasionally decorate her girlie’s clitty stick and pussy when she’s feeling arty. Girlie will not be permitted to wear knickers or a skirt for the evening, just high heels, stockings and a top. Lady A may tie a pink bow around girlie’s clitty and pussy, or paint it nice colours with pink or yellow body paint. She may tie beads and rings around it or maybe clip things to it such as hanging earrings. She will possibly tie little bows into the small triangle of pubes above girlie’s shaved clitty stick. Girlie has to then wear these decorations on her pussy and clitty for the whole evening.

7. Girlie must always curtsey after serving Lady A something or doing something for her. Failure to do so will lead to the next stage below.


Punishment Discipline:

This is used for any misdemeanor that girlie may do and annoys Lady A. It could actually be for anything so is difficult to list anything specific. Maybe girlie was too slow to serve a drink, maybe girlie forgot to curtsey which is something that happens far too often. Maybe girlie was getting too fond of wearing a beautiful dress and forgot to compliment Lady A on her beauty. All the punishments involving spanking above are used, often with a bit more force. The belt has become the favourite of late.

When girlie is becoming too immersed in her own femininity and forgets about Lady A, Lady A will force her girlie to remove all her clothes and remain naked for the rest of the day/evening. After a good spanking with the belt that is.

To be honest, Lady A does have to keep on top of things to stop her girlie forgetting the situation. Lady A feels that all ladies in this type of relationship need to do the same, even though their girlie husbands may be enjoying the situation. Selfishness or complacency will always creep into the the girlie husband’s thinking and this needs to be spotted and stamped on immediately and eradicated.

Encouraged feminisation

Lady A and her feminised husband often think a lot about why we and others enjoy ‘forced feminisation’. To start with we’re going to disagree with the term ‘forced feminisation’ since this implies that the feminisation was imposed by just one party, the female, when in fact it was certainly wanted by both. Ok the man probably didn’t realise at first, he just needed some encouragement due to his internal social and physiological rules making the idea of being feminised seem not be be the natural order of life.  For this reason we prefer to call it ‘Encouraged Feminisation’.

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We often discuss this and ask ourselves why? These are some of our thoughts and what we believe are the answers.

From birth our society teaches us that females have the feminine supporting role and males the macho provider and leader role. As we grow older females are taught, encouraged and shown how to dress more feminine with pretty dresses with long hair, colours such as pinks, whites and yellows.  Their appearances becoming increasingly sexual as they get older.Males on the other hand are encouraged to wear plain clothes that cover them fully with colours like blues and greys. Males are taught by society to be the providers and leaders and women the supporters. Ok this has changed somewhat over the past thirty years but go to any office and you’ll see that the majority of workers are male in grey or blue suits, no flesh showing besides their faces and hands and short cropped, often military hairstyles.  However, how many of the women will have dresses or skirts, legs showing through sheer stockings or tights, probably quite a lot of neck and neck line showing. Maybe some chest on show. Long or longish pretty hair, maybe some nice hair clips. If there is a role reversal in a family with the women as the provider and the man staying at home then it usually makes the society or home sections of the newspapers or there is a documentary about it on the telly.  I have worked with a married couple where each has a similar senior management role but when there have been problems with their baby sitter or other domestic situations then it’s the woman who goes home to sort things out.

We know that structure has been loosened somewhat but it’s still there.

So what’s our point? Our point is that the current social structure is actually UNNATURAL. Why are men supposed to be the providers? Why are women expected to dress more provocatively for the enjoyment of men? Don’t women also like to look at men’s legs, necks and bums? And more? Why shouldn’t men be expected to dress more sexual for the benefit of women.Why shouldn’t men wear pretty dresses and skirts, stockings, pretty pink blouses? Why can’t men wear long styled hair as the norm for the benefit of women? Why is this considered wrong? I don’t think the world would stop turning. Why do men wear trousers and women dresses? No reason, these are just made up rules.

The fact is that some men do like to be in charge but then so do some women. Other men most certainly do not and neither do some women. Isn’t the natural order of life really between the Alpha men and WOMEN of the world as leaders and providers and the non Alpha men and women as the feminised supporters?

Our relationship and attraction was certainly that Lady A is an Alpha female and her husband is not. Lady A led him into the world of feminisation where it enabled him to escape from the expectations of being an Alpha leader/provider 24/7 to being a supporting housewife at home, which is indeed the more natural order. Lady A loves to see his long legs in beautiful stockings and therefore ensures he wears nice pretty short dresses and skirts. He enjoys the attention and the fact she’s attracted to his body. It’s true that our relationship also includes some discipline but that is also necessary to maintain control in a natural alpha / non-alpha relationship.

Feminisation of your menfolk is not therefore a strange fetish as some may have you believe, but a very natural order of life. Let’s hope it becomes even more common and we encourage all readers to either do it in your own relationship or if that’s not possible find someone who is your natural fit.

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(We found these drawings on this post on the web but apologise as we can’t remember where from. If they are yours please let us know and we’ll reference them).



How I feminised my husband part 2

Step 12 shave, shave shave

So Lady A had her husband wearing dresses, skirts and tights. There was a problem. He had male hair on his legs which showed through his new tights. Plus some hair on his chest which showed on the low cut dress. Worse than that, his genitals were quite hairy and this looked far too masculine. Time for the next big step.

It was a warm evening and Lady A was feeling sexy and persuaded her husband to put on his dress but without tights. Time to play the unattractive card again.

“You have such lovely long legs. Sooo sexy” she said to him. I love to see them in a short dress or skirt”. He looked very embarrassed but also he liked the attention and having Lady A so attracted to him.

She looked longingly at him. “Couldn’t we just remove the hair on your legs and chest. It would look so sexy.”

He was again, not keen on this idea. Lady A kept on and eventually produced hair removal cream. She led him into the bathroom and applied  it. He was quite embarrassed again but the idea was also exciting.

“We can’t use this on your sissy stick and balls so we can just shave them” she stated after washing the hairs from the legs and chest down the shower drain.

He objected. However she offered to do it for him and led him naked into the living room. She ordered him to lay on the floor with his legs wide and she would shave it for him. Again she liked it with an erotic act and he complied. he did enjoy it. He was shaved.


Step 12 overcome all his objections

He will lapse, ‘forget to wear a skirt’, make excuses and so on. You need to overcome all objections by being inventive. For example he was doing some diy in the house and put on his old jeans. Lady A went straight to the charity shop for two casual skirts in his size and came back. He had to wear skirts for decorating no excuse and here are some old skirts to wear. Another time he objected to shaving his legs as they would show in the gym and be too obvious. Answer: long track suit bottoms. Problems solved but always be on your guard for his objections.


Step 13 Feminise his sissy stick

If you’re not careful he will always have one part of his anatomy that shows him to be male. Lady A came up with a great solution; feminise it. two ways to do this. 1, Re-name it as a pussy in general and a clitoris or clitty for the sissy stick. 2. Lady A now makes him shave a nice little triangle of pubic hair just above his clitty, the rest being completely shaved.This has worked beautifully.

Step 14 make him sit down on the toilet.

One of the most important changes you need to make is to get your feminised man to sit down when going to the toilet. This single act really emphasises his feminisation and has the side benefit of making sure there are no splashes to clean up around the toilet afterwards. In fact it is this logic that you should use to get him to sit down.

I started the sit down campaign by constantly highlighting the splashes around the toilet and the toilet seat, even when there weren’t any they would be invented. By constant reinforcing the problem of splashes he will eventually give in. It might sound strange but it is very satisfying to see my girly husband sitting on the toilet with his knickers round his ankles and his little skirt across his thighs.

Of course it is necessary to continue to monitor this and ensure he always sits down. One way is to occasionally check with him by asking if to confirm he always sits on the toilet. Another way is is to regularly go in the toilet with him when he needs to pee and stand over him.

It’s worth the small effort and of course puts you as the mistress completely in charge of things, as it should be.

Step 15 female only beauty products

Lady A got rid of any male products. Even his razor was replaced with female razors. No more after-shave just female perfumes, in fact we share the same perfume. Deodorants and moisturisers, shampoos, shower gels and so on. This is necessary to reinforce his feminisation.

Step 16 make up and nail varnish

Buy him his own female make up bag and stock with his own make up, lipsticks and nail varnishes. There is now no excuse for him not having beautiful pink nail varnished toe nails at all time. It should all be reinforced continually by showing how lovely you think he looks.

Step 17 A bra

Without a bra he just can’t feel as we feel. She made him put a dress on one day. “Some thing is still wrong” she said. “You need to fill out your dress at the front. You need a bra”.

“Men don’t need bras. There is nothing to support”, he objected.

“Yes I know but the dress doesn’t fit properly so it’s just to make it work”. With that she went upstairs and came back with a large bra which she made him put on. Again she complimented him on just how lovely he looked and rewarded him with a great evening of…. well you know what.

There was still a problem. Although she had got him to wear female clothes at times, they were still associated with sex and she really wanted him in female clothes every time possible. He had to think of female clothing as the norm.

Step 18 Call him a girl at all times

Lady A had stopped calling him a man and had often referred to him as good girl and at one time Cindy. However she stopped using his name at all and just refers to her husband as girl as in “come here girl, beautiful girl, good gilr, bad girl” and so on.


Step 19 Ban trousers in the house

Now the key objective of the process, to get him/her to wear skirts and dresses whenever possible. He should wear skirts and dresses as normal wear only reverting to trousers for work and to change when he was at home and to wear female clothes at weekends. He was now the house wife and he must be female.

Lady A realised that she needed to be tough again. No more persuasion. She had the upper hand now so she just needed a final push.

It was a romantic evening meal, one Friday evening at home in September. Prepared by Lady A’s part time housewife and girl. They sat down, her girl opened the wine. They at their meal and drank the wine and were feeling quite relaxed. Lady A had made a point of being quite direct that night, giving her instruction. “Dinner now girl” and “Good girl” and so on.

Her girl cleared up the dishes. “Sit down in here please girl” ordered lady A as he/she was stacking the dishwasher. “Now!”

Lady A’s girl came in sheepishly and sat down.

“I”ve been thinking my pretty girl”, she said. “I love to see you in skirts and dresses. I think they suit you and you are so much more gentle and compliant. And it makes me so hot”.

“Thank you Lady A”, said the girl.

“So I’ve made a decision and I want you to follow this. I don’t ask for much but this you will do.”

“Ok anything Lady A”

“From now on you will wear only skirts and dresses. No more trousers unless necessary. You obviously have to wear trousers outside the house, to work and if someone comes round but otherwise you WILL wear skirts and dresses only. If you have to wear trousers such as for work, you will wear knickers underneath. When you pick me up at night in the car from work or a night out you will do so in a skirt or a dress. This is not negotiable. It’s a rule”.

He stared at her. “I’m not sure that’s practical”

“I don’t care, you will make it work. She had done it. Mission completed

Step 20 clearing up loose ends

There are still a few things Lady A has to do to complete the transformation. One is her girlie husband’s hair. As a man in his 50s, his hair is a bit thinner than it used to be. She has made him grow it a bit longer to take hair clips with pink bows, an Alice Band and a small pony tail but in reality a wig is going to be needed.

Another change in the planning is pierced ears. This one is tricky as the holes will be obvious to people and he does have to go to work. Lady A has bought him some clip-ons but her real wish is for him to have proper pierced ears and feminine earrings  but so far a solution eludes her unless she just goes for it.

Yet another change she’d like is to get her girlie husband waxed at a beauty salon by a female beauty therapist. Lady A would just die to see a female waxing his pubic hair into a little triangle and then doing his pussy and legs completely. This is a big step as she doesn’t know how the salon would react. More thought needed here too.

A final change is for Lady A to regularly invite her friends home or to go to their home and her girlie husband to be in a nice little skirt or dress. Although there have been two ad-hoc occasions, this continues to be an ambition on a regular basis. Lady A would particularly like to spend a weekend and evenings with her female friends with her girlie husband feminised the whole time, or  feminised with stockings, high heels, a nice blouse but her pussy on show to all.

Suggestions for the pierced ears and waxing would gratefully received as would any examples of how any of you have done it without a scene.