I receive many comments and contacts from followers on this blog and I enjoy reading and responding to every one. However I recently received a wonderful letter from a feminised cross-dresser called Kendra in the USA. It was actually for Alice as clearly Kendra understood the concerns and conflicts going on inside Alice and wanted to make Alice feel more comfortable about being feminine. Alice was quite touched by the letter and I think it has helped her come to terms more with where she is going and I’ve found her more accepting and relaxed about being a girl since reading the letter.
Kendra kindly gave me permission to reproduce the letter below and here it is in its entirety. I hope you enjoy it as much as we did and if there is anyone else out there going through the same transformation as Alice whether from the Mistress’s side or the former male then I hope it strikes a chord for you too.
My name is Kendra and Lady A has allowed me to write you with some encouragement.
I live in the NW part of the US and am 55 years old. I am currently single but my ex-wife did one thing for me that I’m thankful for. Our split up was not a result of our sex life or my crossdressing. She did try to take the lead in our marriage and we both enjoyed it and learned from it. She also encouraged me to find my feminine side and did so by dressing as a woman and we both went out with a group of other gurls to restaurants, shopping, and even to a golf event.
At first I was reluctant to go out dressed as a woman and I was afraid someone would point at me and make fun of me. But with my wife by my side and all the other gurls, I found out that nobody really cared about how we were dressed. Sure, there were a few stares, but I realized they were more interested than being mean. Besides, what should I care about what they thought? The only people I cared about was myself and my wife. We weren’t doing anything wrong and we started to have fun shopping as two girlfriends and talking about fashion and shoes and other girly things.
As Kendra grew and developed she became more comfortable going out and soon it became natural. The more attention I took to my looks and most importantly, HOW I ACTED, fewer and fewer people even looked at me. I was blending in as a woman.
When you are out and about, look at how real women act in real world situations. Most of the time they are smiling and LOOK HAPPY. They hug and air kiss if they are with friends. Look at how they move, walk, what they laugh about, how they wear their clothes, shoes, hair, makeup, accessories and how they walk. Here’s a tip. When you walk, pull yourself forward when you put your foot down. DON”T push off your back leg, GLIDE and use your forward leg to pull you where you want to do. Don’t clomp like a man, glide smoothly like a woman. Give your hips a sway when you walk and keep your legs together and try to touch your knees when you walk. Not bow legged like a man, YOU ARE A WOMAN!
Women move with grace and poise. They flow and make everything look effortless. When you can move like that, you will look like a woman to the world and feel like one inside.
Lady A wants your feminine side to come out and if you want to please her you need to WANT to be a woman and ACT like a woman. That would make her VERY happy and proud, and I think you want that. If you walk into a room, act like you own the room. If you are confident that you are a woman, then the world will see you as a woman. If you are hesitant and have doubts, the world will eat you alive. YOU ARE A WOMAN! Act like it and the world will accept you and you will be happy and at peace.
I understand you have some hesitation about getting your ears pierced, don’t! I had mine done and nobody has ever said anything negative about it. I wear 4mm silver studs with a small diamond and they are not very noticeable. If you wear clip-on earrings, you know how they hurt your ear lobes after a couple of hours, well, with pierced ears, the earrings don’t hurt at all. Unless you are wearing huge, heavy ones that will pull down, but you don’t wear those very often anyway. The assortment of earring you can wear with pierced ears is incredible and you won’t regret it. If you have a small crease in your ear lobes, have them put the hole there and it will disappear if you aren’t wearing earrings. You will love the way earrings pull at your lobes and swing and the sound of the tinkle of some earrings. And besides, if Lady A wants you to have pierced ears, then that is all that matters. You have been given a gift of her power and dominance, bathe in it and accept her position and do what she says. It will make her happy and that is your job as her wife, to make her happy and her life easier. You are lucky Alice!
If you’re worried about having big shoulders, wear something to cover them. Your pink cardigan is cute and when your shoulders and upper arms are covered, they look smaller. I’m 6’2” so I’m tall too, but if you dress right, you look normal. I even wear pumps with 5 inch heels! Wear long flowing clothing and scarves are a wonderful accessory now that it’s getting colder. I know Lady A demands you wear short skirts at home, but outside if you wear long skirts, leggings or dresses, and then a long cardigan or other outwear, then it all flows together and if you walk like a lady, you will look like a lady. Be sure to clear your skirt before you sit down, even if it’s a micro skirt, it will be good practice. Look for websites that describe different fashion tips and ways to cover up things you don’t like. Be sure to get permission from Lady A first, if she demands it. If she doesn’t still ask her anyway, it will show her you are interested in advancing and taking your feminization seriously. It will be a nice touch and show of submission to Her power over you.
Alice, I’m sure you realize it already, but you are so very, very lucky to have found Lady A! She is a gift from the heavens. You can’t know how many gurls would kill to be in your position.
I’ve read her blog and I can tell you that she truly loves you and has only your best interest at heart. You can trust her to never do anything that would hurt you. She may push you out of your comfort zone, but that is okay. That is how we grow and develop. Think about where you were 3 years ago. How far have you come and did you ever think you would be where you are at now? Aren’t you happier now than back then? I bet you are. And you only have Lady A to thank for that. You both decided that she is the leader of your marriage and have become her wife. Because you are her wife, she is the ONLY person that you need to be concerned about pleasing. If she wants do to something to you, trust her! It is only for your betterment as a person and the woman she wants you to become. And I bet the woman you also want to become?!
I don’t know your situation with work or other commitments where presenting as a woman would be a problem, but I don’t think Lady A would jeopardize them. Trust Her.
If you ever have doubts, remember that your submission to her is a gift greater than any diamonds or gold. You are giving yourself to her. There is no greater show of love than that.
If Lady A will allow you, look at YouTube videos on how to walk in high heels, how to act like a lady and there are many websites that give tips and tricks to crossdressers on how to look more convincing and increase your femininity. After all, that is what SHE WANTS. And that is all the motivation you should need to increase your desire to become the woman she wants. You can also find hypnosis videos on YouTube for feminization and submission. There is one that has 16 videos that you can play one after the other and lasts about an hour. Listen to them with headphones and it is amazing how you feel after listening to them a few time. I’ve downloaded them to my phone and listen to them at night in bed. There are also hypno videos on relaxation and stress reduction.
Something I’ve found that has really helped my feminine feelings are by wearing a bra every day. I’ve even worn silicone breast forms in a B or small C cup and gone out. I do wear a jacket or something bulky to help hide them, but I do know they are there and the feeling is so very feminine it puts a smile on my face. And I figure if any one says anything it is probably out of interest and they want to know more. If you can’t wear a regular bra somewhere, you could always wear a sports bra. It would be easier to hide but is still a bra and you still know it there and is a sign of your commitment to your Lady. It is like your wedding ring but more feminine. And wear your bra and breast forms to bed. It will help your feeling of femininity and real woman don’t take their boobs off at night! Maybe Lady A will like reaching around you and playing with them, wishing they were real and not fake breasts.
As you become more feminine you will become gentler, kinder and more understanding and become a better lover to your Mistress. And that is a win for everyone!
Alice, I hope some of what I said makes sense to you and helps you realize how lucky you are and how proud of you Lady A is. Remember, IF YOU BELIEVE, THEY WILL BELIEVE!